maggiehursh Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I have been in a relationship for 7 years, we have never married. I have lived with him for 4 years. I'm now finding out that I have been his keeper. I feel like i am his mother. My children are now grown and I find that keeping him is like keeping a child. He doesn' t work in the winter not even unemployment, does not take anything serious in our home. I find men like this because of my lack of self-esteen. I've been going to counseling for awhile, too figure out why I continue to put up with the not working, playing golf, drinking and the immuture person that he is. He only acts nice to me when he needs me for something. He says he loves me. I stopped wearing my ring. We have wonderful sex. He always gets me to sucker back in. We never do anything as a couple, he has more fun with his friends. We argue all the time, because I try to change him. My son's continue to tell me to get rid of him he just uses you, but I continue to stay. The home we live in is my home I'm the one that has a very good job. Why do I continue to put up with this person? Do I really love him? If I ask him to leave he has no where to go. Please help!! I need incourgement.
malaclypse Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Hereby, I officially encourage you to kick his sorry ass out of your life.
Meaplus3 Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I have been in a relationship for 7 years, we have never married. I have lived with him for 4 years. I'm now finding out that I have been his keeper. I feel like i am his mother. My children are now grown and I find that keeping him is like keeping a child. He doesn' t work in the winter not even unemployment, does not take anything serious in our home. I find men like this because of my lack of self-esteen. I've been going to counseling for awhile, too figure out why I continue to put up with the not working, playing golf, drinking and the immuture person that he is. He only acts nice to me when he needs me for something. He says he loves me. I stopped wearing my ring. We have wonderful sex. He always gets me to sucker back in. We never do anything as a couple, he has more fun with his friends. We argue all the time, because I try to change him. My son's continue to tell me to get rid of him he just uses you, but I continue to stay. The home we live in is my home I'm the one that has a very good job. Why do I continue to put up with this person? Do I really love him? If I ask him to leave he has no where to go. Please help!! I need incourgement. Hi, I'm sorry to hear of your troubles. From what you have written here, it sounds to me like this man is very disrespectful... and if I were you I would not put up with that for much longer. He needs to get his act together..or IMOP hit the road. Good Luck. AP:)
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 If you had decided to stay in the relationship for your children, I encourage you to leave him since they're all grown up. The thing about you is that you have the means to support yourself, you're financially independent, and you could be so much better without your husband as his dependency on you is only gonna drag you down. The reason you can't pry yourself away from this man is because you've gotten too comfortable with the relationship, and is afraid of the necessary change that would need to occur should you leave him. But consider this, if you continue to live your life with this man, you will find yourself completely smothered (if you haven't already).
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