phny74 Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 this is my first post here so thank you all for reading.my girlfriend cheated on me in aug. and hid it from me till the end of sep. finally telling me in a text message! i didnt reply and she called the next day..saying sorry and she thought of things and wanted me! i said ok..she tells me she is pregnant with my kid and the guy even knows its my kid,he told me himself..but he wished it was his..so we tried working on things,then in oct i find out shes still messing with him!! once again she vows to end it with him and be with me! i am losing my respect for myself...at that point as i felt she had me right were she wanted me...i cried all night and rarely slept...waking up when i did sleep in tears..from that point on she had me on a rollercoaster of head games...swearing no more him..only to find out she was still speaking with him! she started torturing me with phone calls saying she screwed him on my bday because her pregnant hormones were raging only to call me again to say she was just tryin to hurt me! i could go on with all the torture she put me thru but i think u all get the picture..my question is ...why whenever i tried no contact she would come running back ...and i mean fast!? if i ignored her shed be at my front door or work! id have 100 misssed calls from her and still do to this day!why is she still messing witrh me if she likes another ? she wont let me be happy or heal...she always reapears!her reason for cheating was me! of course sayin i wasnt giving her the attention she wanted...just last week she spent the week here ripping that man to shreds telling me 100 reasons she wouldnt be with him..talkin bout his kids and how she hates them and how shes unnatracted to him...im starting to think shes nuts!! she was to come here sat night only to text me from his house and say sorry im with him now:mad:....i think i finally got angry...but why do i feel so hurt...like i lost a part of me? everything shes done shouldnt i be happy or realieved? i havnt talked to her in 2 days now but she keeps calling me and calling me..i feel so sad and ive had so many people say i shoulda left her long ago...she pretty much destroyed me to no end...but i still think of her alot! i just dont get it..how can u tell me forever and just instantly say u got someone else just to change your mind about him in a day or 2?! thanx for listening.
amaysngrace Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 i just dont get it..how can u tell me forever and just instantly say u got someone else just to change your mind about him in a day or 2?! She's infecting you with her flakiness. She sounds nuts to me too. I guess it's safe to say that if you meant enough to her she wouldn't have gone out to find somebody else. Disregard what she says. She's only saying what you want to hear because it's how she keeps a hold of you. Pay more attention to how she acts.
mark982 Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 she's nuts,and dragging you down with her!dump her and make darn sure you get tests to prove the child is yours.
carhill Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 OP, step back and breathe... How does the ultrasound of your baby look? When did she become pregnant? The above underscores my focus. Based on your OP, she's "challenged", and that's being kind. The baby (I'll assume one exists) is the important and vulnerable person here. Ignore the drama and focus on the important thing
Author phny74 Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 thanx guys...i have like 12 missed calls from her and numerous emails..stating her love!! and a few really hurtful ones putting me down big time because i wont talk to her!! how can she insult me and still say i love you? and when i bring up a dna test for the baby that really sends her over the edge...saying im denying my child and posting crap all over the place saying what a joke i am:mad:....she will put up away messages insulting me and this coming from a 29 yr old woman..who i loved with all my heart once...i still have hurting feelings...i think only because of her always finding me...i feel if she left me be..id be ok! in the 3 min i just wrote this i got 5 calls from her !!
Author phny74 Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 OP, step back and breathe... How does the ultrasound of your baby look? When did she become pregnant? The above underscores my focus. Based on your OP, she's "challenged", and that's being kind. The baby (I'll assume one exists) is the important and vulnerable person here. Ignore the drama and focus on the important thing shes 7 mos and the baby is healthy..she always uses the baby as a way to get to me..
amaysngrace Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 i feel if she left me be..id be ok! in the 3 min i just wrote this i got 5 calls from her !! She is playing with your head by calling you so much. She's not liking being ignored too much. Good. I'd say that's about par for her cheating on you. Now she feels like crap too. If you feel you'd be okay with her leaving then know you'll be okay by leaving her too. You are doing the right thing by not talking to her. If you pick up it's more of the same draining BS. You sound about spent. Let her go drain the other guy now.
Author phny74 Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 She is playing with your head by calling you so much. She's not liking being ignored too much. Good. I'd say that's about par for her cheating on you. Now she feels like crap too. If you feel you'd be okay with her leaving then know you'll be okay by leaving her too. You are doing the right thing by not talking to her. If you pick up it's more of the same draining BS. You sound about spent. Let her go drain the other guy now. yeah her last words were pretty much..i know i can have you anytime no matter who im with or who your with...that pretty much told me she wont be happy with anyone..so i kind of feel a happiness not answering for her!
amaysngrace Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I agree with whoever said to get a DNA test done. It's a tough spot to be in because you may be having a baby with this girl. So you won't ever be able to get rid of her. Honestly either way, if you are the daddy or aren't, you should count your blessings.
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