Nevly Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Hello, Kind of new here but I'm stuck on something that I don't think I have any people in my life I could ask about. I'm young, very early twenties and I've been with my boyfriend and lived with him for about two years now. Since we've been together he's mention that I have labia minora (I think those are the ones I mean) that stick out below my labia majora, they're not very smoooth either and the skin's even a little darker. Before I met him he hadn't been with a girl since he was in college and has been watching NOTHING but porn ever since (I actually mean a lot). He right away started talking surgery to me to get the undesirables reduced/removed. I've tried saying that porn is edited and that all those girls probably have had any bad looking vaginas airbrushed or surgery as well. That lips are normal for women. He retorts back that his highschool/college girlfriends never had anything like me. Like there's something wrong with me. He doesn't seem to get it and I'm a little lost. Basically, I have to feel inadequate because I'm not a porn star? I mean, I'm totally clean shaved for him, is labiaplasty really the next step? I guess I'm looking for a little opinion/advice on what to say/do. Thanks for your time.
Nevermind Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 e right away started talking surgery to me to get the undesirables reduced/removed. I hope you told him to get a butt implants. And a penis enlargement asap. Those studs in the pornos are well equipped, you know? Seriously, nothing is wrong with you. Lots of women have vaginas that do not look like the picture from the text book. It is completely normal.
BlueEyedGirl Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Why some women put up with this is beyond me.
carhill Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Your BF needs a reality check. If your protruding labia cause no discomfort nor health concern, I'd leave nature well enough alone.
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 He doesn't seem to get it and I'm a little lost. Basically, I have to feel inadequate because I'm not a porn star? I mean, I'm totally clean shaved for him, is labiaplasty really the next step? I guess I'm looking for a little opinion/advice on what to say/do. Thanks for your time. I don't know....what do you think? This comes down to who you want to be. Is criticism so frightening to you that you'll get bits of your body cut off in an effort to avoid it? You might believe, as a lot of women seem to, that you can avoid misogyny and criticism by getting your bits chopped off/pumped up - but I reckon you might just be wasting an awful lot of money, not to mention undergoing the risks people take every time they go under the knife. And having to put up with the pain of fundamentally unnecessary surgery. Rather than getting a new vagina, would it not be cheaper, easier, less painful (and, in the long run, much better for you) to get a new boyfriend who is happy with you the way you are?
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I suggest you get rid of the extra p*ssy. Not the one on your body but the one you are dating.
Jess-Belle Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I'm young, very early twenties and I've been with my boyfriend and lived with him for about two years now. Since we've been together he's mention that I have labia minora (I think those are the ones I mean) that stick out below my labia majora, they're not very smoooth either and the skin's even a little darker. Before I met him he hadn't been with a girl since he was in college and has been watching NOTHING but porn ever since (I actually mean a lot). Nevly, FWIW, I heard that a lot of these women in pornos get surgery down there to fit whatever latest "ideal" these porno lovers conjured up. I just about died laughing when I heard this kind of surgery even existed in the first place. I was like are these people for real? I mean god forbid I have visible labia minora!! Ewww!! Yourt body is totally normal. I would absolutely not listen to anyone who so clearly bases their ideals on porn.
stillafool Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I personally would have walked out on that idiot the moment he said something like that to me. What will happen if you get the surgery and this guy breaks up with you, and the next bf likes (lips) and wants you to get them back? What will you do then? I saw a surgeon on TV who specializes in this type of surgery. He said women are coming in by the droves to mostly have their vagina's tightened to that of a virgin. He also said women are bringing in pictures of how they want their vaginas reconstructed. I don't know what the h#ll is wrong with women these days.
dreamergrl Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I'm willing to bet if you were to actually go through with it, he'll continue to find "errors" with how your body is. Dump him, and find someone who will accept you for who and how you are. Don't ever change your body to meet someone else's expectations.
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 (edited) I saw a surgeon on TV who specializes in this type of surgery. He said women are coming in by the droves to mostly have their vagina's tightened to that of a virgin. He also said women are bringing in pictures of how they want their vaginas reconstructed. I don't know what the h#ll is wrong with women these days. I doubt we (women) are much different from the way we were 20 or 200 years ago. What's different is that a) porn has become far more mainstream, and only tends to feature women who have had a lot of surgery carried out. To a lot of men (and, therefore, women) that's the standard women now need to meet in order to be deemed sexually attractive b) The availability of surgery. The more women get these things done, the more women will feel pressurised to get them done. Take a room of 10 women. If one gets her labia snipped off, the other 9 will probably laugh and say she's a bit mental. Once three have had it done, the other 7 will probably start wondering whether they too should think about surgery to carry on being contenders in the "sexually attractive" game. A person doesn't need to be insane to give way to peer pressure. Men are as susceptible to that as women are. c)The money to be made from women having plastic surgery. Insecure, validation hungry women are more profitable and beneficial in all kinds of ways. So perhaps what's wrong with women is that we do give in too easily to those pressures. On the other hand, isn't it human nature to want to be attractive to the opposite sex? The more men who want or demand something close to porn standards in their women, the more women will go out and get these operations carried out in an effort to please, conform - or even just reduce the amount of criticism that gets levelled at them. The feminist movement that sought to help women to feel sufficiently okay with themselves that they'd resist those pressures, has pretty much been mocked right out of the mainstream. So it's up to individual women (with support from the men who care about them) to work on keeping themselves emotionally healthy enough to avoid giving way to all this stupidity. Edited March 10, 2008 by Taramere
DanielMadr Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Your "partner" is one big A**HOLE. P.S.: Visible labia minora is pretty common thing. Absolutely no worries. Surgery is nonsense if you dont step on it.
Art_Critic Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I suggest you get rid of the extra p*ssy. Not the one on your body but the one you are dating. I agree.. what and idiot.. Dump the dude.. and anybody who would tell you to get plastic surgery for this is a controlling idiot..
DanielMadr Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I doubt we (women) are much different from the way we were 20 or 200 years ago. What's different is that a) porn has become far more mainstream, and only tends to feature women who have had a lot of surgery carried out. To a lot of men (and, therefore, women) that's the standard women now need to meet in order to be deemed sexually attractive b) The availability of surgery. The more women get these things done, the more women will feel pressurised to get them done. Take a room of 10 women. If one gets her labia snipped off, the other 9 will probably laugh and say she's a bit mental. Once three have had it done, the other 7 will probably start wondering whether they too should think about surgery to carry on being contenders in the "sexually attractive" game. A person doesn't need to be insane to give way to peer pressure. Men are as susceptible to that as women are. c)The money to be made from women having plastic surgery. Insecure, validation hungry women are more profitable and beneficial in all kinds of ways. So perhaps what's wrong with women is that we do give in too easily to those pressures. On the other hand, isn't it human nature to want to be attractive to the opposite sex? The more men who want or demand something close to porn standards in their women, the more women will go out and get these operations carried out in an effort to please, conform - or even just reduce the amount of criticism that gets levelled at them. The feminist movement that sought to help women to feel sufficiently okay with themselves that they'd resist those pressures, has pretty much been mocked right out of the mainstream. So it's up to individual women (with support from the men who care about them) to work on keeping themselves emotionally healthy enough to avoid giving way to all this stupidity. Feminist movement wants to surpress, break and start from scratch. Thats why they are not an option. What they shuld do is to educate women how to be less insecure without blaming society/men/capitalism. What is different is that women have more sexual partners these days- they dont marry as virgins. And they still date in age when their vaginas look like wizards sleeve. So they want to appear in normal (in biology terms) - young. Men who are influenced by porn so heavily are not dating material anyway.
AdrianaLima Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I suggest you get rid of the extra p*ssy. Not the one on your body but the one you are dating. LMAO!!!
daisygirl Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I suggest you get rid of the extra p*ssy. Not the one on your body but the one you are dating. Exactly! I agree 100% with this!
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Feminist movement wants to surpress, break and start from scratch. Thats why they are not an option. You're looking at extremes of feminism. It needn't be about anything more threatening than women cultivating a bit more confidence and self respect. The trouble is, for some people that's threatening enough.
Mustang Sally Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I suggest you get rid of the extra p*ssy. Not the one on your body but the one you are dating. No doubt and extremely well said. But tell him that he needs a labiaplasty, and not to let the door slap him in the vaginal fornix on the way out! ....the nerve of some folks.....
norajane Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Ewww! Get rid of him, quick! Before you do, though, tell him his balls hang unevenly and he should really get his sack snipped and tucked to adjust them. And while he's at it, get his ass hair lasered off and bleach his anus. And if he does all that, maybe then someone will want to get near his revolting attitude, but he shouldn't bet on it. Seriously, any guy who would ask you to do this is an immature creep who should be laughed at and dismissed immediately.
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 (edited) get his ass hair lasered off and bleach his anus. If he finds that too effeminate, advise him to go at that hair with a good sharp knife, then give himself a Domestos enema to take care of the bleaching side of things. Any good jeweler will have his balls gilded and transformed into a pair of unusual earrings. Which you will, of course, make him wear. Edited March 10, 2008 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
DanielMadr Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 You're looking at extremes of feminism. It needn't be about anything more threatening than women cultivating a bit more confidence and self respect. The trouble is, for some people that's threatening enough. Feminism is extreme in its nature and his main branches are extreme. Why? Because it is a political movement. And when a political movement is about "US and THEM" meaning anything besides propagating Natural Human Rights it is extreme and potentionally dangerous. I can name various reasons why feminism is at fault but I tell you this - I can smell commie (anything anti-western-society- **** miles away. And it smells pretty bad. Lets make Confidence and Self Esteem Movemnt Female Branch and ditch the political and socio-engeneering agenda and I will be happy and women too I bet.
DanielMadr Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 If he finds that too effeminate, advise him to go at that hair with a good sharp knife, then give himself a Domestos enema to take care of the bleaching side of things. Then castrate him with a pair of nail scissors while he's sleeping off the trauma of all that. Any good jeweller will have his balls gilded and transformed into a pair of unusual earrings. Which you will, of course, make him wear. Where's Woggle? OMG. Some surpressed anger and sadistic tendencies?
Taramere Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I can name various reasons why feminism is at fault but I tell you this - I can smell commie (anything anti-western-society- **** miles away. And it smells pretty bad. Ah, but you live in Bohemia - so your views are bound to be coloured by that. I've seen those grim, brown communist era light-fittings you lot had to put up with for so many years, so I'm not surprised you feel strongly about this
DanielMadr Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 Ah, but you live in Bohemia - so your views are bound to be coloured by that. I've seen those grim, brown communist era light-fittings you lot had to put up with for so many years, so I'm not surprised you feel strongly about this And rightly so. Ive seen it from inside. It is not pretty sight. Take my advice. btw I flagged your sadistic post....some kid might get bad idea about what is normal reaction.
Rise Against Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 ahh seems like he's using you as a sex object. I don't think this relationship is going to get very far. I say ditch him just the the person who said get rid of this pussy hahahaha.
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