AussieJack Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 (edited) Well now that I reflect on it a bit, she did say off-handedly that she was thinking of changing it due to her ex still bothering her. You all missed the significance of this . She is still emotionally attached/connected to her ex in some way.That means that she and the ex have recently broken up and he (according to her) is "still bothering her ".. OK, "so what", you all say. Well, when a woman breaks up with a boyfriend or comes out of an LTR , what does she want from the next guy that she meets ? You all give up ? The answer is EGO REPAIR and VALIDATION that she is still attractive and desireable !!! Women in this situation often go for the NIce Guys- no suprises with them, no Bad Boy habits and so on. Mr NIce Guy puts em up on the pedestal and runs around after her, so she achieves her objective . The OP presented himself as a Nice Guy - offered to wire her computer network on the first meeting ! Nice ! So she got drunk and "invited " him back for sex. THe moment that he said YES the sex deal was off. What she really wanted was to establish (in her mind ) a situation in which she could demonstrate to herself that she could still seduce any guy, and that guy would WANT her badly. She did not want to have sex -she wanted to know that HE wanted her ,and getting a new man in her bed sure told her that.. THat satisfied her craving to feel feminine and hot again after her break up. If she seriously wanted to have sex she would have 'done it'..A woman who is really ready to have sex is a force to reckon with and will rarely take no for an answer.. The OP was merely a convenient target for her EGO to go to work on. Sorry about that eDave.. but you were "rebound guy " for ONE night. AuusieJack's Rule #4 - "Never waste you time with a woman who has recently broken up with her B/f." . That means less that one year, men. Edited March 12, 2008 by AussieJack
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Golden rules: Calling in 24hours min. 48 hours good. 3 days the best. You call earlier and you are in suspicion you are a needy wimp one. Let them roast a little. No bloody calling machines. Just hang up. It takes balls to call, they have none, so they wont call back (unless really in love like 99%). And have you ever heard some messages. All sounded retarded right? It is not normal to speak like to someone but with no feedback. Hey chances are she wanted just some fun and you ruined it so dont expect applause. I dont mean you should have f*cked her when she was drunk. It is a NO NO. Good luck
DanielMadr Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 VALIDATION yeah. at least she offered something for it. These are usually satisfied enough the moment a guy says "Lets go to my place"
Author eDave Posted March 12, 2008 Author Posted March 12, 2008 Aussie, Ding, ding, ding! There is a lot of info that I didn't put in my initial post to solidify your assessment. What happened doesn't bother me anymore. Just HAD to get to the bottom of it. Kinda feeling like a sucker, eDave
justpassingthrough Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Kinda feeling like a sucker Oooooooooooooooh, don't doooooooooooo that. What's done is done. You were REMINDED (because I'm sure you knew this) that the moment you felt the "WTH?!?!?" feeling, it was done. Bless your heart for sticking to the traditional dating method. I don't do that anymore. To me, there are few things worse than a blatant interview. Instead, I prefer to let myself into someone's world (or them into mind) for a few minutes at a time. Then, eventually, for longer periods because any relationship we form is really a series of moments strung together. I swore off dinner and a movie (read: our besty besty manners on display followed by at least an hour and a half of sitting in silence next to someone we don't know while we try to pay attention to something entirely different than the person we're supposed to be getting to know. Good luck with that.
AussieJack Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 Aussie, Kinda feeling like a sucker, eDave HEy eDAVE, don't sweat it. We have all been there with PREEKTEASERS. The wisdom to be taken from this experience is this - Do not associate with women who are still connected to the 'live remains of her previous disaster'...(be very wary if she is still ANGRY ) If you EVER do date one of these women ,NEVER be 'NICE GUY' with them . It is guaranteed that your kindness and generosity will be followed by exploitation by her.
Author eDave Posted March 13, 2008 Author Posted March 13, 2008 Aussie, I need the complete list of your rules dude. Respect, David
Art_Critic Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 I have half a mind to stop by her place and say WTF? But I won't. Don't do that... that would be creepy and would only solidify her decision to not give you her new number... Buck up dude.. you really didn't miss out on anything other than sex..My guess is that she was looking for a one night stand and you didn't give it to her.. She needed to be drunk to Fuqk and run. Dating is a numbers game.. the more you date and go out the better the chances of meeting someone decent..
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