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My boyfriend of two and a half years tells me he is going on a motorcycle trip in the summer for two weeks.

 

He tells me it will take a few days to get there, they are going to camp at this national park for a few and they will also be going to the Sturgis Bike rally for a few.

 

i feel its fine to go riding and camping somewhere but a bike rally is a dirty environment.

 

The pictures i have seen have made me speechless and disgusted..Girls are dancing on top of the bars wearing basically nothing or these leather outfits, they walk around the whole time wearing close to nothing, i saw pictures of topless girls doing body shots. I read they hold a topless contest for girls every night and sometimes the bottom part too. Girls flash for no reason at all.

 

I know riding is apart of this rally but i feel like you can ride anywhere and camp out. I dont think he will do something wrong but he is putting himself in this type of dirty and skanky environment and it makes me sick to my stomach. I dont like it. Everytime i see those pictures it reinforces how i feel about it.

 

He tells me i worry too much and how does the dirty environment have to do with him? I said you are the one CHOOSING to put yourself in this environment and this is what will be around you and the married men or men in relationships who go to this without their S/O did not grow up yet.

 

I really don't know what to do. Is this honestly a respectable thing to take part in when you are in a relationship or married? Am i overreacting--is this something i should say well it will be for a week and its once a year?

 

Looking at those pictures made me cry half the day and i don't know if this is something that should be let go of.

 

 

Please write back if I am overreacting and taking it too far.

 

Wasn't this posted on here a long time ago?

 

Well, all I can tell you is, no good happens at those bike Rally's. People will disagree and say things like, "he can cheat anywhere". Thats true, but why be with someone that is gonna throw themselves into a lion's pit and go on these trips knowing full well what they are about?

 

And its obvious he doesn't want you around, gee, I wonder why? You'd cramp his style with all the ho's running around there. I think your bf is a dog. Anytime a SO objects to you being somewhere that isn't exactly condusive to a faithful relationship, something stinks.

 

I'd say if he is the type of guy that would go on these trips to heathenism heaven, then maybe he isn't the guy for you. He needs himself a biker sluut.

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sungrl,i think you are waaay over reacting!!! been to sturgis a couple of x's.i've went with my wife and w/o.

 

Big difference between you and her bf is , you probably didn't care if your wife went.

 

Her boyfriend doesn't want her there at all. She posted this last year and he was adamant about her not going. He kept making up excuses.

 

I say she just dump the dick.

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In my experience, if you feel that "Something's just not quite right" feeling, you should probably go with your gut.

 

I bet if he had invited you along in the first place, you'd be more comfortable with it. However, because he refuses to let you go, you see it as, "Ok, so what is he trying to hide from me?"

 

Am I right?

 

And the more you try to force the matter, the angrier that he gets.

 

My suggestion is for you to plan your own holiday. Maybe you could take a friend or two and take a mini-vacation some where like the beach, or to a city you've never visited, or maybe even visit relatives that you enjoy seeing, that you havn't seen in a while.

 

In other words, make his foray into the sleazy something that you can look forward to. After all, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, IMHO.

 

If that's not going to work for you, try to figure out if this is a deal breaker. If it makes you THIS uncomfortable, then maybe you need to rethink the rest of your relationship: What else is he doing that makes you uncomfortable? Does he make demands of you that he's not willing to do himself?

 

I was in a LDR for a long time with someone, and not one time did I ever doubt him. And he lived near Ibor City in Florida (not the nicest area, but a fun area).

 

And the others are right: if he wants to cheat, it would be alot easier for him to stay near home to do it, rather then fight with you on taking this trip.

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twice shy,first off don't knock me or my wife,i find it just childish on your part.and for the record i " enjoy" my wife traveling with me and would rather her be w/ me!!! it was HER idea to stay home. i quess after all these yrs. together she trusts me(for good reasons). you come across as a very bitter person against bikers,is there a reason??

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mark,

 

i guess thats also another difference here..my b/f is telling me there is no possible way i can meet him and what will i do--only fly down for a few nights to go back home?

 

my good friend said--if he wanted you there..he would find a way and the fact he saw u so upset over an evironment like that and it almost doesnt phase him and he is going to go would make her rethink staying with a guy like that...

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How is your relationship overall with this guy, sungrl?

 

You post frequently about your cheating anxieties, but that seems to be more your anxieties than any actual cheating going on. And you've been with this guy for a long time. So I have to assume your relationship is fairly good?

 

If so, I probably wouldn't stress out about this trip as much as you are. Every guy needs a guys trip away every now and then.

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I just don't get it... Why is it not ok for him to roll with his buddies and do guy stuff.

 

To be honest when my buddy and I take off on our bikes it really is a pain to have a gf around. It makes riding much more strenuous, plus do you even have gear, do you ride on with him regularly? So if you are there then they can't do any day trips and so on...

 

Maybe they sit and drink beer in their leather at a picnic table and some chicks are going to be running around in strings... so what?

 

Is he allow to go to the beach without you?

 

If everything else in the relationship is ok, I mean as in he doesn't normally give you a reason to think that he is dishonest then I would really let this go.

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he is telling me i can fly down for the event then..but he says they will only stay there for 2 nights.

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ONE question sungrl:

 

WHY do you want to go? What do you hope to accomplish?

 

NVM: I was just looking through your other threads like "Boys Night Out" & "Worried & Anxious about LYING boyfriend" as well as some other ones and you're the clear definition of a demanding, controlling, jealous & insecure gf as one can think of. Hate to be judgmental but the fact that you actually said you trust him in this thread shows how blind you are to your own relationship.

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