ronx7 Posted March 9, 2008 Posted March 9, 2008 I didn't know this until yesterday, but a friend and I are interested in the same girl. We both been out on one date with her. She told him the same thing she told me that she's not ready for a relationship. I'm ok with that, but what I'm curious about is whom it seems she likes better without having her to choose. She and I went to the movies and we had a nice goodnight kiss. Now my friend he took her to dinner and then to the mall and he said that she took his hand as soon as they got out of the car but no kiss. It comes down to whats more intimate a goodnight kiss or holding hands? Any thoughts?
SoHotZanzibar Posted March 9, 2008 Posted March 9, 2008 I would think the kiss. I'd be interested in hearing what women have to say. I think I lost every girl to my friend in this type of situation. If I do manage to give any advice, do the opposite of what I suggest. Good luck!
Tony T Posted March 9, 2008 Posted March 9, 2008 It comes down to whats more intimate a goodnight kiss or holding hands? Any thoughts? I would say it would depend on where on her body you kissed her and if your held hands were up against anything on her body or yours.
Replicant Posted March 9, 2008 Posted March 9, 2008 I didn't know this until yesterday, but a friend and I are interested in the same girl. We both been out on one date with her. She told him the same thing she told me that she's not ready for a relationship. I'm ok with that, but what I'm curious about is whom it seems she likes better without having her to choose. She and I went to the movies and we had a nice goodnight kiss. Now my friend he took her to dinner and then to the mall and he said that she took his hand as soon as they got out of the car but no kiss. It comes down to whats more intimate a goodnight kiss or holding hands? Any thoughts? Not very smart thing to do, things like this can lead to major contention between friends. I would have thought if things went well on the first date with you two it would lead to a second, then says she's not ready only to proceed to go out with your friend ...face it she's a flake. Now you might want to see if she has 5 other guys booked for the remaining days of the week so she's made sure she's going to be fed dinner and provided entertainment afterwards.
AussieJack Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 (edited) I didn't know this until yesterday, but a friend and I are interested in the same girl. We both been out on one date with her. She told him the same thing she told me that she's not ready for a relationship. I'm ok with that, but what I'm curious about is whom it seems she likes better without having her to choose. She and I went to the movies and we had a nice goodnight kiss. Now my friend he took her to dinner and then to the mall and he said that she took his hand as soon as they got out of the car but no kiss. It comes down to whats more intimate a goodnight kiss or holding hands? Any thoughts? Hey son, you are not thinking straight. " I'm not ready for a relationship "... This is woman talk for," I am not really into you and I do not want to be your G/f but stick around and give me attention and fawn over me ,BUT i will dump you if someone better come along." THis girl is not really interested in either of you. She is playing along, enjoying the attention from two guys BUT she is "still shopping" for Mr HOT and BAD.. YOu are making a FUNDAMENTAL mistake and that is allowing yourself to COMPETE for a woman. NO ! NEVER do that. The object of dating to to create a position of desirability for yourself so that women compete for YOU. That is what dating is all about . Real men do not make themselves available to women so that SHE can choose,. Chumps do that. AussieJack's Rule #5 ..Never pursue a woman who has not fallen for you FIRST. Edited March 10, 2008 by AussieJack
juliebijoux Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 I always have to remind myself is that I am never going to know what someone is thinking, unless they specifically tell me. So who knows which one she likes better? I would not suggest asking her either. One thing that she specifically stated to you was that she didn't want a relationship. That is what she is thinking. (btw AussieJack, I like your rule... but I tend to use it from the girl's point of view:)
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