BrianG Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I have been adhering to strict NC. Haven't spoken with ex over 2 months. We shared an apartment together for only six months out of a 5 yr. relationship before she moved out. Well today I get a text message: "Sorry to bother you. but I was wondering if you sent the later saying we would vacate the apartment at the end of the lease? Hope you and your family are doing well." Its been 6 months of hell living in this apartment without her. The ghost of her is everywhere around this apartment. In our last conversation I told her I would send the letter because I want to get out of here as soon as possible. I did not even want to live in this area in the first place but moved here for her so we could be together. Anyways, she knows I planned on sending the letter and she is probably just making sure I would because her name is on the lease. I want to be mature about the situation and I just wanted to get some advice. I haven't heard from her in two months and its through a text message. Do I just send a simple "yes" today? wait a few days to send it?or nothing at all? Thoughts????
Cool Chick Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 Well, for starters did you actually send the lease letter? If you did then just send a simple; "Yes, I sent it (list date)." You can add a "Things are well, thanks" to the end if you like. If you haven't sent the lease letter, why not? I'm really not a fan of head games. Message her and let her to so that it's over and done with. If she messages you back then kindly let her know that you're not interested in maintaining further contact until you have healed and moved on with your life. That of course is if you want any contact at all in the future. Cool Chick
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 1. Congrats on two months of NC! 2. Send the lease letter 3. Once sent, brief message to her (or e-mail with letter as attachment) advising her of that fact. No need for personal observations, etc. 4. Continue NC
Author BrianG Posted March 8, 2008 Author Posted March 8, 2008 yeah, I sent the lease letter 3 weeks ago, prior to the date I needed to send it just to make sure they got it. I dont want to be here any longer than i have to. I will just back a simple yes and thats it.
Author BrianG Posted March 8, 2008 Author Posted March 8, 2008 should i say unfortunately yes, I will be out by April. I did not want this and she already knows how i feel about her. She is the love of my life. So confused????? Still dont want to give up but I dont have a choice. My heart skipped a beat when I saw a text message from her.
trevor_n Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 congratulations on 2 months,i get the feeling ure coping very well and determined to move on read my POST http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t146591/ okay in my opinion you have the power,she broke the n.c,your reply should be as curt as possible (e.g a simple "yes" will do the trick) and should not invite any future conversations,stay on track buddy youre doing well.
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