Author NuTuDating Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 I could comprehend if you had kids too, but as a single guy,unmarried with no kids you have options that she does not. Furthermore,(and I say this respectfully as one dude to another) you are 31, why would you be contemplating a relationship with a 33 year old mom? Where are all the 20 something, single ladies? Still, you do say you are in a difficult area, and I haven't seen the lady; She may be one hot 33-year old mom;). Good luck whatever you decide, Honestly, single girls in the 25-30 year old range (without children) that are close to my type are a rarity. I don't live in a huge city, not into long distance relationships, esp with someone from a big city because I have a great job here, I just put in a new swimming pool, and I've lived in the big city and I prefer a slower lifestyle. I guess my point is, I'm not really open to moving just to broaden the dating pool. Big city girls tend to not want to leave the big city. So, both of you are right - maybe I could do better in an Austin or Dallas, but that really doesn't interest me too much. But your points are well taken. I manage enough dates here to be selective, just haven't found her yet... And yes, this girl is very attractive - physically as well as her personality.
Legend Posted March 10, 2008 Posted March 10, 2008 There's young girls everywhere. You're going to the wrong places.
Author NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 LoL, and your suggestions would be? As a matter of fact, since I'm about three drinks into a nice bottle of scotch I might as well give you a little more background... Single, 31, CPA, have a cool job (NOT doing accounting anymore). Own my own home, have all my teeth, run about 15 miles a week and stay in pretty good shape. The problem is, I moved here not that long ago and 100% of the people I hang out with are married. Every last one of them. I even had two girls at work hit on me, but they're married and I don't do that whatsoever. One grabbed my pec last time we were out in front of her husband! Love going out on occasion, but I'm no party animal. Hate going up to girls in bars, but again, the people I hang out with are married, so I don't meet single women when we go out. There, definitely open to suggestions as to WHERE I should be meeting girls. Oh, and not into meeting them at church, no matter how many times mom says that's where I should find "her".
Legend Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 well first.. where is "here" Where the hell do you live. like if I were to send your ass a letter in the mail, what city and state would I put on it? lol 31, sounds like you make good money, you should be getting women in the 22-25 range
Author NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Wacko, Texas. Went to college here, lived in Dallas for about 5 years, and then moved back here (not single at the time) for a job. I do actually like it here, yeah, I make decent money, especially for a low cost of living city like Waco. LOL, so where are all these 22-25 year olds hiding?
Legend Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Well I have no idea what wacko is like, probably a wacko for living there, hah. If bars aren't your thing, try comedy clubs, or night clubs. meeting single people through your married friends is good too.
Author NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 Well I have no idea what wacko is like, probably a wacko for living there, hah. If bars aren't your thing, try comedy clubs, or night clubs. meeting single people through your married friends is good too. Ummm... yeah, no comedy clubs or night clubs here, lol. I run around with a pretty tough crowd! Mostly married. Again, small town - not much to do but get drunk and make babies it seems (ergo all the women with children). Tried joining Junior League, but since it's an all women's club, they denied my application.
Author NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 M'kay - figured out what to say from my earlier post. She called a bit ago and we were talking. Jokingly, I told her that I was going to have withdrawal symptoms if I didn't get to give her a big kiss pretty soon. With nothing more than that said, she told me she definitely wanted to go out with me alone this weekend. So I guess I was being tested?
Legend Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 No, she was just getting free crap for her daughter.
Author NuTuDating Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 LOL, she has paid for two of the outings herself.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 He sounds interested in dating her to me. Maybe her as a person but not her as a mother thats what I ment
eDave Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 NuTu, I haven't read this entire thread so I apologize if this was already suggested. You know, dating is a 2 way street. She is sizing you up as well. With a daughter, she most likely wants to see your intentions not only to her but to the entire "package". Pass that test and you will be golden. But pass it with integrity. No acting. I am sure you know this, but as you get older, the women, and their kids do too. But added to this is the baggage. It gets heavier too. Not sure how this applies to the situation at hand but I thought I would toss it in there.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Wow whats with the since hes only 31 he has to still be a party animal mentality why only women 22 to 25? Some of them in that age bracket can still be kinda immature hes 31 he wants something more mature and meaningful at this point from what it sounds like good on him. Why should he have to go for that just cause they may be hot? Unless its not about finding a stable loving relationship and more about sex and looking good with whats on your arm in the club maybe? I can understand the idea of wanting a young free hot gf but theres nothing wrong with older mature women at some point ether. Op I take back some of the things I said perhaps you are more open to the idea of dating her then I thought thats great! Yes I think she was testing you maybe 2 dates in a row to see exactly what your reaction would be to prolonged contact with her daughter. After all if you think about it any one can act happy at one meeting. But it takes a real genuine interest to be happy on the 2ed. I see she now wants some time alone great I'm happy for the two of you. Do what makes you happy in the end and if this women and her daughter do then nothing else matters! Seams to be a bit of bitter player mentality going on in this thread don't listen to it. If shes as stable as you say I doubt shes looking for anything but a caring relationship out of you.
Balthazar Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 (edited) There nothing wrong with either preference Spanks, I was just expressing the opinion that most 31 year old sigle unmarried guys would probably go for the 22-25 year old young woman who is in a similar situation as he is. Now, if a guy prefers a 33 year old divorced Mom with kids, that fine too. As far as the issue of maturity is concerned, sorry, but I think that excuse has been done to death. I have noticed that maturity in women relates to their age, but not to the same extent as it does in men. In a nutshell, there are many women in their 20's who are quite mature. Not to mention their youthful appearance and outlook on life. I know which woman I'd choose! My 2 cents Edited March 12, 2008 by Balthazar
eDave Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 (edited) Whoops. Posted to wrong thread. Carry on. Edited March 13, 2008 by eDave
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 There nothing wrong with either preference Spanks, I was just expressing the opinion that most 31 year old sigle unmarried guys would probably go for the 22-25 year old young woman who is in a similar situation as he is. Now, if a guy prefers a 33 year old divorced Mom with kids, that fine too. As far as the issue of maturity is concerned, sorry, but I think that excuse has been done to death. I have noticed that maturity in women relates to their age, but not to the same extent as it does in men. In a nutshell, there are many women in their 20's who are quite mature. Not to mention their youthful appearance and outlook on life. I know which woman I'd choose! My 2 cents So your basically saying that in your opinion women in their 30s cant have the same youthful appearance and outlook on life? I'm 30 and I get carded almost every time I go to buy liqueur just cause some ones older doesn't mean their looks or there outlook are worn and faded. What excuse? you really think most 22 year olds are pretty mature? Sure theres always the exceptions granted. But I think most at that age are more worried about what party their going to next and hanging out with there friends. Nothing wrong with that its normal for that age group in general of course the 18-25ish bracket. I have seen from life experiences in general that most people start maturing past that stage at about 26-27 and on ward thats just my take on it tho. Thats just my 2 cents! I'm not auguring with you by all means were all entitled to our preferences when it comes to dating.
Author NuTuDating Posted March 13, 2008 Author Posted March 13, 2008 She didn't come right out and say she was testing me, but that's definitely what she was doing. I hit it off with the daughter pretty well, and she told me that I did as well. We're definitely going out this weekend by ourselves. I definitely am tired of dating girls who feel the man has to provide constant, 24/7 entertainment. After the first few dates, you realize that they are pretty shallow and don't have any interests themselves other than watching reality TV. Not my type. I love to go have a few drinks, but I'm past my all night clubbing days.
Balthazar Posted March 13, 2008 Posted March 13, 2008 (edited) Are women in their 30's more mature than those in their 20's? Beyond a doubt Spanks! But we live in a time when an increasing number of older women(30's+) act as if they are in their teens! Which is why I think each person has to be judged individually. Do the 20 somethings have a more dynamic, vivacious outlook on life? Again, Beyond a doubt! Although, there are older women who are just as lively. Do they only care about where the next party is? A lot of them do and a lot of them don't. Being attracted to women in their 20's doesn't mean you would go out with any one of them without some selective criteria! So yes, it is a question of preferences. Finally, my assertion is that a 31 year old guy will appreciate a younger, unmarried, childless woman to a 33 year old divorced mom. IMO, a better spring board from which to begin a LTR. Edited March 13, 2008 by Balthazar
Author NuTuDating Posted March 13, 2008 Author Posted March 13, 2008 That depends, Balthazar. I've dated both recently. It seems like so many of the younger women are so flaky that they don't know what they want from day to day. To each his own, obviously.
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