blair08 Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Why is it that there are some people who will purposly sabotage themselves or a relationship they are in? I have always wondered WHY some do this. I have never understood it.
underpants Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I would presume it is fear based. The degree to which someone sabatoges can be an indication of character problems, however, I would assert the roots of actions are based in fear. A great deal of sabatoge actions can be battled with communication, reassurance and a general calling out of the behaviour. Even better a recognizing of your own patterns of sabatoge and a decision to do things differently. When sabatoge actions cross the line into deception and cheating that (for me) is much harder to even want to understand. Although, I've seen some sad people that have lost out do to that type of sabatoge. I guess when they figure out their patterns they might decide to do things differently (or not?) My .02
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