XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 I am really confused about this situation. My BF wants to be a script writer in Hollywood/LA. We don't live in California, but recently he took a trip there because he has a connection with a producer that was putting on a short film. This producer liked a script he wrote and tells him she will pass the script out to other people. He was offered a job over the summer working on a set of a small film. I am very, very happy for the steps he has made, but I am also really confused. I feel really hurt from continual comments he makes when he tells me he would cheat on me with so and so actress, especially since he is going to be around these types all of the time. I am hurt that he tells me he writes scripts specifically for a certain actress that he drools over and tells me this all the time. I am also hurt that he is letting this success seem as if it is not as important as steps I am taking toward my career. I am only a student, but I have goals for the future, too. Success is never guaranteed, regardless of who you know. I don't know why, but all of these things are really catching up to me. I love him very much, but I feel maybe I need to let him go. If he thinks his life/career path is better than mine, it is not fair for me to stay. I think eventually he wants me to move with him to LA, but that would not happen anytime soon. I just don't know. I'm tired of the constant commentary of female celebrities, and feeling degraded by it as well as feeling like my pathway does not matter. But at the same time, I don't know if I can let go. Just the thought of it breaks my heart to pieces.
e.clipse Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 to be blunt, sweets, your BF is a jerk. really. he is. and a big one, too. i can't believe he is still making those comments to you, even after you've explained to him how they make you feel. that's just not right. surely you can see this, no? that aside, not to burst his bubble or anything, but how many people don't want to make it big in Hollywood? and how many people actually make it? typically, it takes years and years of hard work and a lot of really, really good strings to be recognized out here. it would be nearly miraculous for him to make it big after one script, one small job on an equally small set, and with only one connection. i am not trying to put him down; i actually think that is a very cool dream to have and pursue. the reality of it, simply, is that it is not that easy to reach. he should be the first to understand this, that the direction he wants to take is not a steady one, and therefore shouldn't be implying any supremacy over you. he has his dreams, you have yours; each are respectable and notable. you yourself said that success is not guaranteed, and that is true. the other thing that is true is that success is something you measure using your own yardstick, not anyone else's. that you boyfriend is implying otherwise, while making you doubt yourself even more than he already has, is aggravating and completely immature. i've read your other posts, and in my honest opinion, this is not the relationship nor the guy who is going to make you bounce back up again; it's just kicking you even more. do you think that you need that?
MalachiX Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Wow. I'm starting to think all us filmmaker wannabes make lousy boyfriends. Sorry your guy is an ass. I guess it's nice to see another perspective on how I treated my ex (didn't try to make her feel inferior or imply I'd cheat but certainly got distracted by my dreams of a career in the movies).
Queequeg Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 He sounds like my ex, who would also make a bunch of comments about other women. Then he would tell me I was temporary until he found someone better. I don't know if your boyfriend does that, but the more you hear this crap, the more you believe it. But it is NOT true. You are worth so much more than that, and you deserve respect. IMHO this guy has no respect for you. I know you probably don't want to hear it, I never did, but this guy is bad news. YOU are too good for him.
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 7, 2008 Author Posted March 7, 2008 Yeah, I don't like the comments about other women. It makes me feel like he is taking me for granted and feels he can leave me at any time. It also makes me feel very disrespected.
mistie03 Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 What makes him think that a celebrity is going to be ready to jump his bones when he gets to Hollywood? Anyway, telling you that is very insensitive to you and your relationship. I agree with the others that say he sounds like a jerk.
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 wait...this is a new bf, or the gay guy? Is it normal for a gay guy to want to jump actresses? I don't get out much
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 9, 2008 Author Posted March 9, 2008 Sedgwick, this is a boyfriend I've had for about 7 months...I love him. I'm still getting over the gay guy...he is from my past. I am not 100% sure if he is gay, but I am pretty sure. It's hard to explain that situation. But this is about my new bf. I know it sounds bad that I'm dating someone while getting over someone else, but I do love my BF.
nylah Posted March 9, 2008 Posted March 9, 2008 I think it is just terrible for him to say that stuff to you. Maybe you should kick him to the curb for a while. I know you say you love him, but he does not sound like he's in the same place you are right now. He sounds kinda mean.... does he by any chance know about the gay guy? I may have missed that...
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 Well, this kind of has to do with the thread....I will post what I posted in a different thread under Dating...I really need help!! Okay, so my boyfriend doesn't seem to like pussies with hair on them. He hasn't gone down on me in a month but will finger me. I shave but I am Jewish and have really thick hair on my head and down there (sorry to be graphic) so it is hard to get everything...and I have been slacking lately 'cause I feel if he isn't gonna' do anything to it, why should I bother? Granted, I haven't asked him to go down. ANYWAY, today I went to Wal-Mart and bought a waxing kit. It is a hard wax and no strips of cloth are needed to remove the wax. You wait for the wax to harden and then tear the wax off by itself. This waxing kit was for my nether regions. I put a clump on it and I can't get it off. I don't know what to do. I have tried everything. Now it is hardened and won't come off. OMG. What should I do??? Please help. I should have gone to a professional but it costs $70 and we don't even have this service in my town. I would have to a city at least 45 minutes today and I don't have any appointments nor do I have the money. I feel so stupid...I am seeing my BF tomorrow and this wax is still there. Not to mention that I'm incredibly uncomfortable. My computer in my house isn't working, so I had to put clothes on and run to the library in order to look up information on how to get this off.
Author XxBacktoBlackXx Posted March 10, 2008 Author Posted March 10, 2008 Well, never mind about the above...I just found out that I should buy baby oil and take a bath with it. Grrr...I'm in such a bad mood right now. First of all, I'm broke yet need to buy gas because my car is on empty and then need to buy freaking baby oil of all things, I'll be using up almost a full tank tomorrow, and I have wax stuck on my ****ing pussy. :lmao:
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