jj_yvette Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 Ok.. I've never done this before so here goes... I've been with my boyfriend (sorry to be cliche) for 18 months and recently a girl who my boyfriend had a big thing for contacted him, saying that she is now engaged. Since they've spoken he said he has been depressed. I think thats kinda weird when he is supposed to be in love with me, or maybe thats just me being crazy... I don't know.. Things are weird between us now too... Its almost like he has stopped caring about me. I'm giving him some space cause last time we spoke he snapped and seemed angry. Two days later, I'm going crazy and I'm worried about him. I am so confused about what to do.. Any feedback would be great. If I'm overreacting.. Or what I should do etc etc.
CaterpillarGirl Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Well, I'm not telepathic, but I'll give it a go. The way I see it there are two possibilities: 1) Your bf still has feelings for this girl and is dealing with that. He is provoking you into arguing with him so he can break it off with you. 2) Your bf is feeling insecure right now. He might be thinking what was wrong with him that she didn't want to marry him. He might be turning that insecurity into broodiness and general grumpiness at you. Why bother continuing with you when you might break up with him later? Since I don't know which is more probable, I would say, chin up, let him have another day or two. Then play the damsel in distress. You are having trouble with your leaky water faucet, your homework, your (whatever he is good at fixing). This ought to show you whether he is eager to help or anxious to call it off. If the former, let him know how much you appreciate his assistance. If the latter, he'll call off as unable or uninterested in helping you. Hope this will help. Probably others may be able to offer a different take.
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