rmzjoe Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 I met this girl back in middle school,we were both 14. It was 8th grade and she reallllllllly liked me. I ignored her which I really regret now. Since then she has a had one long term relationship with some 18 year old ******* whois finally not in her life for the most part. between the end of 8th grade and now we have become EXTREAMLY close and Ive liked her for a very long time. I talked to her about it awhile back and she said she isn't sure if she wanted to date because shes scared we could mess up what we already have. The way I see it is, it could only make us better and if it doesn't work out we could juststill be good friends. BUt shes told me for right now shes done with guys for awhile. But I want to be ready for when she might be looking again. We have SO much in comon its almost unbelivable. Were both twins, we don't really fight,we understand eachother,we get along wonderful, and theres just so many little things that make it so great.Another big thing is that her parents LOVE me and think highly of me. So please some advice would be nice. Thank you.
CrudeMood Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 what do you mean you're both twins? you have a twin brother and she has a twin sister? what are the chances of that! you've told her how you feel, the ball is in her court. but if you want to push it further, you can start doing nice things for her. take her out on a romantic date. a movie a dinner. have some nice conversation. that will get things rolling im sure. she can either reject the idea, or it will start to trigger some feelings she has for you. whats the harm in trying? the worst that can happen is, you'll stay friends and theres nothing wrong with being friends! good luck! thats my advice on this!
Author rmzjoe Posted March 6, 2008 Author Posted March 6, 2008 yes, I have a twin brother and she has a twin sister. If you ask me thats pretty amazing. And we are very close, this last christmas that just passed I bought her a diamond necklace.$150.00 But I wouldn't do that for any of my other friends because they are not as close as she and I are
xpaperxcutx Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 Not all relationships are as easy as you put it. "Being friends if it doesnt work out". Well that's why she's so apprehensive about being in a relationship with you. What happens if it doesn't work out and she's uable to let it go? I hardly doubt she'll be willing to be friends. Do not force the issue if she doesn't want it, what she needs now is a griend, not a guy who's trying to buy his way into her heart.
Shagsta09 Posted March 28, 2008 Posted March 28, 2008 i had a similar situation with an extremely close friend of mine also. she had been hurt alot in relationships and she was scared of being with me because she didnt want to lose me as a friend...i was scared too but it's worth it to have a chance at something more meaningful and to become closer than good friends. if you two are truly close then nothing would be able to mess up your friendship. but right now she might need her space and she probably needs just a friend to be there for her. if the feelings are there and are mutual then it WILL happen. i made my choice to tell her how i felt and we've been dating for months now and are planning on geting married... best of luck and keep us posted
trucasuality Posted April 1, 2008 Posted April 1, 2008 i had a similar situation with an extremely close friend of mine also. she had been hurt alot in relationships and she was scared of being with me because she didnt want to lose me as a friend...i was scared too but it's worth it to have a chance at something more meaningful and to become closer than good friends. if you two are truly close then nothing would be able to mess up your friendship. but right now she might need her space and she probably needs just a friend to be there for her. if the feelings are there and are mutual then it WILL happen. i made my choice to tell her how i felt and we've been dating for months now and are planning on getting married... best of luck and keep us posted Really Shagsta? I'm in the exact same situation. This girl and I. We are practically together, except our dates are not "dates" and we don't consider ourselves couples. I told this girl how I feel, and she said the exact same thing. She's been hurt too many times. I hope my situation works out like yours did. Also OP, don't be in a hurry. You can screw things up really really easily with girls, without even knowing. Just take is slow. Be attentive, and if it was meant to happen, I'm sure it will.
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