iwish Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 I had a bad day yesterday, i found out my ex was bad mouthing me to people at work and her flatmate.. i texted her to just say she was out of order and she seems to be denying it.. she has now sent me three texts demanding an explanation.. i ignored all 3, untill she sent one saying she was crying and miserable.. so i texted her back and told her to cheer up and have a smoke (found out that, that's what shes been doing with her time).. she texted again accusing me of playing games and getting revenge.. i ignored that too.. Now it's the day after and i so want to reply to her, i was strong yesterday, i felt that she had gone too far but now it's in my mind that i was wrong and should at least respond so that the hope of getting back with her will still be there. i so want to just email her as i had a dream last night which woke me up at 4am and that i miss her, but then if i do that she will tell people that i'm stalking her.. damn!
malaclypse Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 I had a bad day yesterday, i found out my ex was bad mouthing me to people at work and her flatmate.. i texted her to just say she was out of order and she seems to be denying it.. she has now sent me three texts demanding an explanation.. i ignored all 3, untill she sent one saying she was crying and miserable.. so i texted her back and told her to cheer up and have a smoke (found out that, that's what shes been doing with her time).. she texted again accusing me of playing games and getting revenge.. i ignored that too.. Now it's the day after and i so want to reply to her, i was strong yesterday, i felt that she had gone too far but now it's in my mind that i was wrong and should at least respond so that the hope of getting back with her will still be there. i so want to just email her as i had a dream last night which woke me up at 4am and that i miss her, but then if i do that she will tell people that i'm stalking her.. damn! She's your Ex. Don't waste any more time, thoughts and feelings on her.
sedgwick Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 If she's been trying to reach you, why would you be stalking her if you called back? Granted, maybe 4 am isn't the best time to do so, but my ex could call me any time of day and I would make time to talk to him. Who broke up?
serendip Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 While your ex shouldn't bad mouth you to people you work with...she does have a right to say anything to her flatmate and her friends. It should be none of your business what she says...you are not in each other's lives anymore. Also you have to remember all actions have consequences and you have to take responsibility for your actions. I understand you are hurting and you want her back but you have to leave her be just like she requested in her email (from your other post). Your actions are pushing her away further and further. Best thing you can do for yourself is NC until you heal. (per your post in the break up section - email from your ex) Firstly, you are ****ing unbelievable for doing all of this all over again. Firstly, your texts start off nice, saying you miss me (by the way you shouldn't be sending these and do you really expect me to reply?). Then when I don't reply, you get pissed off and call me nasty for ignoring you. Then you stop when I tell you you're out of order. Then later on, the same bloody evening, you start the whole thing all over again. Then, you have the ****ing nerve to accuse me of/ask me if I'm with someone else. I'm so glad I switched my phone off when I went to bed last night. Do you know why I'm doing that? So I am not woken up by rude texts from you. Last week you apologised for calling and texting me, said you would stop as you didn't want to hurt me anymore, and that I didn't deserve that. And yet only a few days later you start all over again. See the thing is, I still don't deserve it, yet you do it anyway. ..., if you had a chance, every time you text me then go all mental as I don't reply, you kill any chance. I sit wondering if I made the wrong decision, then get your ridiculous, over the top texts and all I can think is that I did make the right decision. And then you ask me to ADMIT to it. ADMIT? You treat me like I'm doing something wrong, you automactially assume whatever you want to believe. ADMIT? I'm not a ****ing criminal and you're not the ****ing police. In response to your last text. Firstly, **** you. Secondly, it's none of your business. It is a simple question, yes, but who said I had to tell you anything? And don't take this the wrong way and immediately jump to conclusions. Thirdly how dare you start accusing me of stuff when you have no idea - do not take your insecurities out on me. Just cause it happened to you before...I mean for god's sake. This whole texting thing has happened to me before, but do you hear me telling you that all the time? Well I am now. You are behaving out of order and you know how much it pissed you off when it happened to me before so I don't understand why you're doing it to me again. I couldn't cope last time round and though I may be marginally stronger, I still don't want to have to deal with it all again. I liked it when we had left things on a positive note. But you had to go and kill that. If you want to hate me, fine. But please don't tell me about it, and stop making me hate you. I was much better when I wasn't angry, now I am just hating the world right now for constantly ****ing me over. And **** you again for telling me you've had the chance and could go and **** other people or whatever. I mean for ****'s sake I don't want to know that. If you can and so obviously are very proud of it, just go and **** them and leave me out of your little games. You haven't because of us? Oh how very noble of you. Good for you to know if I'm with someone else? Good for you? What about what's good for me? I don't need to give you little updates of my life you know. Cold turkey? There's no ****ing cold turkey as you haven't stopped texting me for more than a couple of days. I do think you're being nasty and out of order and quite frankly it's all a little bit too mental for me. You don't want to do what my ex did to us? Well maybe you shouldn't do what he did to me. Why don't you try and understand. It's all hard for me but all you are doing is making it worse and killing any chance that I would want to see you. I know this has all a bit harsh but I'm so angry right now ... I'm actually shaking and I needed to say all of this to you. I don't want to go round and round in circles with you Ray so now I've said this I'm bowing out of this email/text conversation. I need to work. Just back off and stop hurting me over and over again. Think about what you're doing. Take care, really. Just be aware of what you're doing and try to learn from everything. x
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