Adamrl018 Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 ok heres my situation. I am 22. i met this incredibly cool/beautiful girl on the internet that is 20. she lives an hour away from me. we talked a bunch and we decided for me to drive up there so we could hang out. so i did it went well we went out for fast food and we had a pretty good talk and we kissed a bunch. every things gravy. but now that i came back home i can not get my mind off of her. while im at work or anywhere i cant stop thinking about her. wondering what she is doing and if shes ok... ect.. and she has said and shown that she is very interested in me.. so what im getting at is i think i am being to clingy and its very very hard to stop. And she has told me that if i am too clingy and jealous that will drive her away.... so my question is how can i get my mind off of her and stop wanting to txt, instant message her, or call her constantly? or basically get my mind off her. I really like this one... and i really want to win her heart. please help me
OpenBook Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 Call/Text her often (but not more than 3x/day), and always keep it short, light and happy. Don't ever get into anything too heavy. And keep the focus of your pursuit on her (not on you). For example, don't call her and say "Just wanted to check in with you and tell you about my day" - say instead "How is your day going? What are you doing? What are you wearing?" :D
Author Adamrl018 Posted March 6, 2008 Author Posted March 6, 2008 (edited) lol nice ya she has lyme disease and that is also hard to cope with but i am willing to and help her get better. she forgets alot and her attention span is very small. and she cant plan things because it is all based on how she feels a lot of her so called friends have ditched her over this. she doesn't have a job because she cannot work labor but she is trying to get a simple desk job. but there isn't much to talk about her day since she has no job. so our conversations are dull... i have no idea what to talk about i feel im losing her interest. also i fear someone will take her from me. how can i keep her interested and thinking about me? Edited March 6, 2008 by Adamrl018 lol everytime i hit save i remember something else to add
j_hunt_12 Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 Yeah your worries really are not all that uncommon... I think a good rule of thumb is to always make sure the girl is just a little more clingy than you. Just force yourself not to write her too much... just make sure she is satisfied and keep taking her out on dates and she should turn a little more clingy. There is really nothing you can do to get less clingy just prevent yourself from writing and stuff too much... It is just about finding balance... Now I'm kind of past that and I don't have to force myself not to go too fast with me lady... when I get lazy I just let myself get lazy then she takes charge... But there really is nothing you can do up until that point.... Until you completely win each others hearts you just have to play strategically for a while. peace
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