hurtin_bad Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 Ok so ...my husband had an affair a few months back...after all the drama and smoke cleared I decided to try and work things out. we have been together for almost 9 years and have a 2 year old son. I honestly believe we can get back what we once had if we try hard enough...however. He is so back and forth on wether or not he wants to work on our marriage...i have tried everything to get him to make a solid decisison and he just wont. one day he loves me and the next day he doesnt. We are living 2 hours apart which just makes things worse. He made the comment to me the other day that I dont make him chase me...my response to that was that I did make him chase me and he caught me the day we got married. He shouldnt be feeling like he has to chase me to want me. He says that he doesnt feel the way he thinks he should feel about me. He does love me just not as much as he used to. Well to be quite honest...im not sure that after all the drama with the affair that i love him the way i used to either but i am willing to try and rekindle that romance. I need to know how long do i go along with this bullsh*t before I have finally had enough and just walk away? I cant figure out why I havent just walked away already. Does anyone here know why I would stick around for more and more heartache? this **** has been going on for 6 months. Someone please tell me what to do? If i dont talk to him he starts to miss me and think he wants to work it out...but if we talk on a regular basis he always goes back to "oh I dont know"??? HELP ME I AM GOING CRAZY OVER HERE!
stampdaddy Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 You leaving him will give hime something to chase...
D-Lish Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 I'd stop engaging in the push pull game and simply go no contact for a good length of time. Make him come to you and really work for it. SD is right. If you're not available- and he sees you are moving on- he'll chase.
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