stepheine Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 You guys have helped me out a lot in the past and I thank you all. I have a question for you though. My boyfriend and I broke up for a month 5 months into our relationship b/c he was having what I now call a midlife crisis. Some of you may remember the story. Well, we got back together and have been doing great!! He is wonderful for the most part. Well, he told me the end of Feb. that he plans on proposing to me in April. He says he is 100% sure that he is going to propose. We talk about the wedding, our honeymoon, and moving in together and starting a family all the time. But my EX who I have stayed friends says he doesn't think my BF is 100% sure or that he is even going to ask me b/c why doesn't he just do it instead of talk about it. This makes me nervous b/c I am excited about him asking me and I want to marry him but I don't want to be led on. Do you think he is leading me on?? Thank you all.
Ronni_W Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I think your EX is trying to cause trouble! Do not give him the power to do that. Trust the man you intend to marry until such time as HE proves that he isn't trustworthy. I've heard of people doing "pre-proposals" like your B/F has done. I find it a bit odd BUT that's just me. In actuality, there is no harm in it. Stay happy and excited about your future. If your B/F doesn't propose in April, then you two can talk about his fears and concerns that stopped him. Or, you could then propose to him
jinx55 Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 From the sounds of it your EX still has feelings for you, or maybe he is just jealous. Do what you feel is right, no one else can no for sure what you and or your currenty bf feels.
Phateless Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I think your ex is playing it perfectly. He accomplished his goal of mind-F-ing you. Why do you still talk to him?! I do think it's a little weird that your bf told you he's gonna propose instead of just doing it, but at worst that's a lack of spontaneity, not signs of leading you on.
iwish Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 i say, forget the ex.. he will only cause problems in your existing relationship.. just wait and see how it goes with your current bf
sedgwick Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Would you really want to marry someone whose word you couldn't believe? If I were him I'd be very hurt that you were questioning me, especially if it was because I knew you believed your ex's word over mine.
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