broken990 Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Hey everyone. I have never posted on a forum like this before but I hope I can get some good advice. Sorry about the long read as well! I was going out with this amazing girl for 5 weeks (not long I know but we were so good together) and everything was great, our personalites matched so perfectly, then over Xmas we couldn't see each other for 5 weeks again. When we did get back together almost immediately she called it off. She gets a lot of attention from guys (cos she is gorgeous) and was with an ex then back to me but within a week she said it was a mistake. We are still in contact via MSN messenger and she lives very close and I did the stupid thing of begging her to reconsider and this probably pushed her further away. I've realised this was a big mistake. Now she is with another guy who she says she is smitten with (even though he sounds a lot like me). Just recently she changed her facebook status to 'in a relationship'. I know that I still love her and want her back, I am not looking for revenge or other such things. So I have a plan. I sent the 'I'm ok with it' letter to her and almost immediately got a reply and things are going well (I even got a drunken text). I am not going to do anything to attemp her to break up with him, cos that firstly wouldn't work and secondly it's morally wrong. Should I give her time for her to realise that I am better (which I am, but I don't know if that would work) and how much should I contact her? What should I say? How should i play this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
jmargel Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Move on and find a more mature female. How old are you two? Sounds like she likes the attention. Just about every guy has been in your position, so you aren't alone. There are plenty of beautiful women who you will find will have more in common with you then this chick.
Author broken990 Posted March 5, 2008 Author Posted March 5, 2008 I'm 21, she's 20. You are probably right, but we did have so much in common. Like I say, those 5 weeks were great and the reasons we broke up was the fact we were apart for so long over Xmas, which neither of us could avoid and also one of her close friends died and so she was in a bit of a mess. I am just at a bit of a loss, but I am getting better. I am going to go NC for a while, especially over Easter. She is going away again so she won't see this new guy over then as well.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 6, 2008 Posted March 6, 2008 I'm 21, she's 20. You are probably right, but we did have so much in common. Like I say, those 5 weeks were great and the reasons we broke up was the fact we were apart for so long over Xmas, which neither of us could avoid and also one of her close friends died and so she was in a bit of a mess. I am just at a bit of a loss, but I am getting better. I am going to go NC for a while, especially over Easter. She is going away again so she won't see this new guy over then as well. You're basically overfantasizing everything at this point. 5 weeks does not literally mean she'll want to be with you. Were you guys official? Even so, you guys were at that infatuation phase, and she was emotionally coping so she turned to the first guy that gives her affection. Trust me, if she had wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have broken up with you. She was basically using you as an emotional shoulder to lean on. And you shouldn't waste your time waiting for her to come running back into your arms, even if she did, know that you'll just probably be a rebound or something. Move on.
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