traveller991 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Hello: Am wanting some insight (especially from guys) about why suddenly someone starts picking on you for every little thing. We had absolutely no serious issues, (this is a LDR) and the last time I went down to see him, suddenly (after 2 years of this LDR) I have "crazy" hair; I smoke (this is someone who would get my cigs out of my purse and light one for me even when I hadn't thought of having one and who smoked a few himself); Oh God! I had a litle stain on my shirt (doing laundry in the hotel sink no wonder); NEVER had enough cold water in the fridge; cooked him dinner and the meat was tough (ever tried to cook Dominican beef anyone?) I don't know, it just seemed it was pick pick pick but all the time talking about marriage and how much he loved me. He had never picked at me before (I was his Queen apparently) so I am bewildered about why the picking. Obviously there was something more serious going on, but why not just come out with it? In any case haven't heard word one from him for 6 weeks after he called me, told me he was sick and neded money, I sent it and that was the last I ever heard from him. So I suppose it doesn't matter but I wonder what's possibly going on in a guy's head when he starts this stuff so I'll know for next time. (Married for 11 years, no boyfriend for many years so I'm out of practice at this dating thing). Thanks.
Nevermind Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 In any case haven't heard word one from him for 6 weeks after he called me, told me he was sick and neded money, I sent it and that was the last I ever heard from him. Yes, he is gone and gone for good. I guess guys who are too afraid to break up in a decent way try to make the girlfriend break up with them by being uber-critical. This way they come out as the good guy, and not the bad boy.
Lizzie60 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Methink he has moved on.. with your money. Now it's time for YOU to move on and forget this loser. Sometimes, when one picks on stupid things all the time, it means they just don't love you anymore... I was extremely 'impatient' with my first ex... even to hear him breathe was too much for me.. Good luck.. don't call him .. don't try to communicate with him in any way.
NuTuDating Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 He's not worth worrying over. Better that you did not marry him!
bejshermanoaks Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 Sometimes guys pick fights cause they need some space and they pick fights to get it. Pretty common actually
compassion42 Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 It sounds like you've pretty much answered your own question. It stinks but at least you found out his true colors before getting even more involved. Definitely don't contact him again-he sounds like he has problems.
AussieJack Posted March 23, 2008 Posted March 23, 2008 (edited) It sounds like you've pretty much answered your own question. It stinks but at least you found out his true colors before getting even more involved. Definitely don't contact him again-he sounds like he has problems. NO ...he does not have problems -you have the problem. I bet that he has found someone else and wants to breakup with you but lacks the skills and courage to do that head on, so he is trying to IRRITATE you so much that you will storm out.. THis is a lame way to do it, but I will bet that this is what is happening. Any guy in an LDR with a woman whom her loves would be EXCITED to see her when they visit with each other. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" not picky and critical. Edited March 23, 2008 by AussieJack
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