starlite Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 I got home from work last night and checked my myspace to find another email from my ex. His last ones were in January and we broke up 5 months ago. He was saying how much he misses me, how I owe him nothing, but he really would love to get together with me just to talk (not even about us, but just about life because he misses being around me). We broke up and I found out he had cheated on me. I have been dating around a bit, keeping all my options open ya know. I've been doing pretty good, but I still have a place in my heart for him. I miss him very much. I am still pretty angry at him, but less so than before and I wonder how bad an idea it would be if we talked or went to dinner. I wouldn't get back with him. He sounds so sad. I know his life has kind of gone to hell since the break up. What do you think??
s_n_d Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Hes right; You owe him nothing. I think you need to realize what he has done to you. He cheated on you and its more than likely that he will cheat again, if you get back together. In the end, you will both be even more miserable than you are now. If its meant to be, you will find your way back to eachother.
Ronni_W Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 , but I still have a place in my heart for him. I miss him very much. ... He sounds so sad. I know his life has kind of gone to hell since the break up. It's tough. If you get together with him out of pity or trying to make him "feel better" about how his life's gone in the cra@pper, it could become very draining and depleting on you. You'd need to set some really strong boundaries about it being a MUTUAL, platonic relationship, and not just where he comes running to you for support whenever he needs it, when he's feeling all sad and depressed and missing you.
sedgwick Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 You owe this guy nothing. Why would you want to hang out with someone who cheated on you? Surely you can find SOMEONE better with whom to spend your time! Like, someone who's not a liar...?
witabix Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Give him another chance............................ BUT.......................... Lay down the law, and make sure he knows it, beforehand............... If you have feelings for him that is, otherwise, forget it.
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