ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 We all have to accept both the responsibility and consequences of our actions. Him and I and her as well have been doing that for many years.Really? And what "consequences" have you been suffering? Sounds to me as though you two go on your merry way and have NO PROBLEM humiliating his wife, disrespecting his family, and making a complete public JOKE of his marriage. He's a real prize you got there. Watch VERY CAREFULLY how someone of this low character treats his wife and family. Watch very carefully. Do you honestly think you're so special that YOU'RE exempt from this scumbag behavior? Oh, it's going to be a far fall from grace when you get the same treatment one day in the future. So again I ask - what "consequences" do you suffer?
MimiMe Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 just got a headache from that long post... but to sum it up. I want to say you are partly a homewrecker. If you were not around to facilitate this ETERNAL AFFAIR, maybe his relationships and yours would have worked. I saw my mother go through this once before... and it aged her. Now she is STUCK with the guy and miserable. When you have the part-time life with a person that is more of a fantasy because he has never really been yours truly, its all peachy. When all the commitment of a marriage, family, real relationship kicks in it may not be what you expected. If you guys have been in love for so long, then how come neither of you have made a move? All those "excuses" cause that is what they are... "excuses" of finances, responsabilities, blah blah blah, dont really keep people that want to fight for a cause away from each other. If in 30yrs, this man is not YOURS, then sorry to say sister... he will never be! and to think that you perhaps didnt give another person a fair chance.
MimiMe Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I am not a romantic. Never have been. Never will be. Not to bash this newbie in any way, but all I see is a wasted life. Marrying men that she obviously didn't love, and then complaining (calling them abusive or whatever) when they didn't love her. And constantly running back to a man who refuses to leave his W and kids. We women really have it hard in life when we think with our hearts and not with the brain that God gave us. Thirty wasted years. Pity. One day, this man will die and leave his family and friends behind. And while, Kingsbury may be invited to the funeral, no one will acknowledge her part in his life. It will be as if she never existed. No one should live in that way. No one. You are 100% and like I said in a different post. These OW live in a fantsy world and give themselves status that only exists in their lil heads. Society, Religion and Uncle SAM dont recognize such a title. Sorry but I am a realist, and it is what it is... My stbxH OW swears that she has any rights over anything that my H has achieved. YEAH TRY YOU LUCK TRASH! (no pun intended) Let's stand in front of a judge and see who is who... but to these species, Reality doesnt matter and they rather believe that "love" is going to save the day. Yeah! go and tell that to a 7yr old asking for his dad. I put it this way... OW will become my weekend maid. She will babysit my kids while I VACA with my stbxH's $$. Sorry B!tches!
MimiMe Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 Carhill, It's not that I don't want to feel the "neurochemical" feelings, I do. I have felt them since my marriage ended. With one person, a person I had known for 30 years. A person who was married. Did I choose that path? No. I clearly remember a moment, sitting chatting normally eating dinner at the kitchen table, two months before my ex's ultra long term infidelity was discovered. She was commenting on a situation in a mutual friends marriage, where a single man we knew broke up a childless couple also friends of ours, who had been together for 20 years. My ex railed endlessly over the heartless "homewrecker" A few days later she left for a long weekend, visiting our daughter at school in another state (3 hours with our daughter, 4 days with her LT affair partner). One of many such trips. I spent the weekend installing cabinets in the kitchen, painting, and finding and selecting enamal hardware with pink roses emblazooned on them she commented she liked at a friends house. just to add a suprise. I never suspected a thing. Why would I? She took credit for setting the "moral compass" in our 25 year marriage. I was the Marine, the tough business guy she had "socialized". I've tried, I really have. I've dated some nice gals, who I'd like to have friendships with... and do share a lasting friendship with one. I've dated a couple that I learned enough about to stop dating. I haven't found one in seven years that I'd rather have fallen asleep with than my friend (recently deseased) Mr. Kitty. It's very depressing to date a bunch and not feel the "neurochemical reaction" you proffer. Sadly I have decided to fight for what I want, and let the chips fall where they will. Lakeside... Wanna Date??? you can come and change the knobs on my cabinets! LOL!
LakesideDream Posted March 12, 2008 Posted March 12, 2008 Lakeside... Wanna Date??? you can come and change the knobs on my cabinets! LOL! As much as I appreciate the sentiment... I've given up dating until my current situation sorts out. The gals do have advantage those these days. Mr. Kitty passed away Sept. 30.... so I've been sleeping alone (also LOL). I hope the person who eventually bought the house 6 years ago is enjoying the knobs.
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