BlueDog9900 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Hello, I have posted in the OM/OW area previously... So here we are, nearly 4 months since the OW and I started this thing we share. The day after Valentine's, I began a self-imposed break up with her for the sake of distancing myself from her emotionally and discovering what is truly right for me: Moving forward with her, or staying with my current partner and trying to work things out. Two weeks later, we saw each other at a funeral for the mother of one of our mutual friends. It was a bit awkward in church, as she sat between me and her current partner. I wanted so badly to hold her hand and to comfort her when she was struggling through the service... At any rate, I have since told her that in our time apart, I have come to realize that I really do want to be with her. I love her more than anyone, want to be with her, miss her like crazy, and cannot stand to be apart from her. She says she does care about me and enjoys spending time with me but she is also really hurt and her wall is very solid right now. What shall I do? All I want to know is whether or not I still stand any chance of being with her. Do I continue to contact her, or should I wait for her to make the moves? Please HELP
s_n_d Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 I think you should take it slow, if you do decide you absolutely want her back or you could end up hurting her all over again. Time will tell whats meant to happen with the two of you...Until then, stay strong.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 The possibility of you and her getting back together does not seem to be in your favor right now. When you imposed the breakup, you made it obvious that you were not ready to be in a relationship. Yet in her opinion, she felt she was being put on hold having to wait for you to make up your mind, and that in itself was unfair. She had a right to move on with her life, to find someone who will reciprocate her feelings, and that did not include having to wait for you. So I guess right now, all you can do is be her friend.
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