BalancenLuv20 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 This is a very deep question...I think there is love that comes and goes, but then there is this notion that supposively true love lasts forever, but I've yet to reach that stage with another woman so for now it's just an ideal in my mind...to refute that notion is the fact that nothing lasts forever...will we be with our loved ones after we die who knows? true love also seems like a mutual thing to me...I think when the one we are in love with stops loving us, it eventually becomes the fact that we may think we love them eventhough they no longer do, but we're really only idolizing them after a while...like after a breakup where we put them on a pedestal and think of all their vibrant qualities we long for rather than their weaknesses...love is composed of so many different variables and has so many different meanings to people, but I think that it can certainly extend beyond just a "moment".....
Tony T Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 just wondering what your opinions are thanks =) It depends on what your definition of "wondering" is.
tonyeltiger Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 My love was strongest "after" the moment so to speak. When she said she needed space, I was fine with it. We had been having problems and I probably could use a break as well. I told her I didn't want to though and wanted to work through it. She insisted on a break. I gave her 2 months of pretty casual contact, then asked her to return. She rejected me, and then I realized that I had lost her. It wasn't so much the rejection, but the fact that I never stopped loving her, but she had stopped loving me. I'm sure it's mostly just the fact that I feel I'll never have her again that makes my love feel magnified a million times. Time will tell.
norajane Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Love, real love, is not 'only for the moment'. That's not possible. Love takes time to develop and grow. And it also takes time to fade, if it does. If something is only for the moment, it's not love - it's something else.
Crestfallen_KH Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 I can honestly say I will always love my ex-husband. He was my first love. He was my first true love. He was the man that, had he been in a horrible car accident and fell into a coma, I would have been the spouse who sat at his bedside until I passed out from exhaustion. I would have helped him on to the toilet, changed his diapers, and took care of him for the rest of his life. He didn't have that for me. While I can say that I am no longer "in love" with him now, a part of me will always love him. That's how I know it was real love. He cheated on me, left me for another woman - yet I still want the best for him. I still want him to be happy, even if it's not with me. Yeah, that was real love. That wasn't for just a "moment." I hope, some day, to love like that again. I'm just jaded enough to think you can only love like that once, but I really hope not.
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