My situation is too complex to sum up in a title.

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Please help.

I have been dating my current boyfriend for a year now. When we started going out, I became very good friends with his best friend. Nowadays, him, my boyfriend and I are very close to each other and hang out together very often. About four months ago I started to gain feelings for my boyfriends best friend, who has turned into my best friend as well. I can't stop thinking about him and I get really jealous and upset when he hooks up with other girls (which is a lot). For a while I thought that he might be interested in me, but i don't know why I humoured myself because now I really don't think he ever did. Even if he did like me though it's not like I would cheat on my boyfriend or anything. He sees me as a best friend, and I wish thats all I saw him as.

 

Don't get me wrong, I haven't forgotten about my boyfriend. I absolutely love my boyfriend with all my heart and couldn't picture leaving him. If I had the choice between my best friend or my boyfriend, i would pick my boyfriend hands down.

 

It bugs the crap out of me that I can't stop thinking about my best friend in this way. I want to know that it will go away, but its been months and it only seems to be getting worse. It's really hard for me seeing him go though so many girls and I really wish it didn't hurt me like it does. I want to kow that theres a way that I can keep being best friends with him, but right now I'm not so sure that my problem's going to get any better by being around him.

 

What in the world should I do?

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That does sound complex. Have you ever wondered whether or not you might just be infatuated with him? Because instead of just you and your bf spending time together, most of the time it's a three person event. Maybe it's best to cut back on that.

It's easy for you to develop feelings for a guy that you don't know before, but have gotten to know really well after a while. Sorta like me, I develop crushes on my guy friends sometimes, especially if we hang out together too much. Mind you I never find them cute in the beginning, but over time the more I get to see them more, and become accustomed to their outgoing personality and whatnot, I do develop a little crush. But that's not something I would want to pursue, because I don't see it as a long term thing. I think that's what's important. If you find that you like your best friend, do you think that anything will ever work out in the long run? If not, then I don't see why you can't just distance yourself from him for a while so you won't be so overwhelmed.