themessenger Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 I've been dating someone off and on since the summer. She understandably doesn't like drama. Yet she necver wants to talk about serious things and is can be hypocritical. She can never go wrong. We had a big falling out in Septemnber didn't talk for months. Just had anmother one yesterday. I get frustrated but I feel like she can dish it out and not take it inb. I feel like I''m there for her but shes not for me. The best part about all this is she doesn't even recogize it because she never wants to talk. When I finaly get her to talk she realizes. I have a problem where she will fire at me and then I feel that I have to fire back even harder and then she is gone. How does someone handle these situations in a healthy way?
whichwayisup Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 She sounds immature. Can't communicate, has to be right and if she gets fed up, she disappears (so she can continue to be right and not deal with the possibility of being wrong - Can we say ego?)...HOw long have you two been together?
Author themessenger Posted March 4, 2008 Author Posted March 4, 2008 on and off since the summer...not sure if its ego or imature she is 30 but is also jaded. idk
4givrnt4gtr Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 i hear you...one of the first things my BF announced was that he HATED drama and that it was the reason why his previous relationships ended... Way to open lines of communication Anyway, what ive managed to do...and will put in practice once again tonite...is that i bring up whatever it is that is bothering me in a lighthearted manner. Not in a "we need to talk" way, cuz that will immediately bring up his defense. I usually will start joking about whatever it is that is bothering me, and then go into it more seriously. I make sure we are feeling positive about each other, and then bring things up in a positive way. It usually works, and it makes me feel good and solves the issue right away. No need to fight...just a conversation.
Star Gazer Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 i hear you...one of the first things my BF announced was that he HATED drama and that it was the reason why his previous relationships ended... Way to open lines of communication No kidding, right? Ex started saying that we were always arguing or "having drama" at the end... in response to something as simple as me asking, "So what are you up to?" "What's with the third-degree drama?!?!" he'd say. Lame. Communication is so critically important in a relationship. If she's so unable to communicate with you that you go months without talking after a tense discussion, how can you ever thrive in the relationship? You can't.
Author themessenger Posted March 5, 2008 Author Posted March 5, 2008 so then am i correct then right? I mean every relationship has to have some communication once in a while right? when i want to talk she says i'm acting like a girl
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