golfer99 Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 I'll try to keep this short. There is this girl she knows I like her. She turned me down. I became distant never calling her but answering when she called me. She eventually started seeing a guy and quit calling me. Well it only lasted a few weeks with him and she started calling me again. In the beginning of January I went to the out with her for another friends birthday party. While there she is having her friends take pictures of me and her. When another of her friends got there she showed her the pictures and that friend was like you guys make a cute couple. I figured this was a hint. guess not the rest of the month she keeps calling me but whenever the weekend come around she is too busy for me. Goto the beg of Feb. she calls me and I tell her I'm not going to work because I'm sick. She says awe you poor thing, do you want me to bring you some food and sit with you for a while. I said thats fine so she did. Next weekend she is too busy for me. I asked her if I was going to have to wait a month to see her again. Her response was "hmm I don't know probably not". The last weekend I told her to call me to hang out. She says ok I will. On friday I get a text at 11pm all it says is she is making brownines. I respond get no answer back. Saturday I send her a text and get no response until noon sunday. She says she forgot to answer me sat. I ignored it and didn't reply. I talked to 2 of her friends last night they both told me I should just ignore her because she is just looking for attention. She even calls herself an "attention slut" . They said that I am not the only guy she is doing this to. And they hear about 1 or 2 new guys every week. This confirmed the conclusion I had pretty much already come to. That I am someone to talk and the phone with and a last resort if she has nothing else to do. If you think I am wrong about her let me know. My main question is do I owe it to her to tell her I'm moving on or just start ignoring her. Part of me says it would be the nice thing to tell her. But also I think why bother because she obviously doesn't care about me and probably won't care much that I'm ignoring her.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 No, I agree with you. You're an "option". You're not an obligation, just someone she uses to occupy her time when she's bored. Next time she calls, be a gentlemen and answer. Tell her you're busy and can't talk at the moment, then hang up. You have better things to do then wait on her all the time.
Krytie TV Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 I would say you definitely should NOT tell her you're moving on. Usually, one of two things would come from that. First, she'll say something to make you feel crappy like "move on from what, we don't have anything" in an attempt to get back at you. Or, second, she'll start pouring it on thicker to prove to herself she can still get your attention. And let's face it, based on your post, you would likely cave and the cycle would start over again. It would seem there's nothing there for you. And don't pull the "moving on" card unless you mean it. She may try to prove that you're not mioving on, only to have you more confused again in the future.
Author golfer99 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 Yeah i probably would cave. The difference this time is both her friends told me if i ever have the urge to contact her to call them instead. They said she is fun to hang out with but they are getting sick of how she does this to guys. Leading them on and expecting them to take her out and pay for things for her and do stuff for her. I don't fall into that catagory, thankfully. When we went out she always offered to pay at least half or the whole bill and she has never asked me to do favors for her. Which is good I guess.
Author golfer99 Posted March 4, 2008 Author Posted March 4, 2008 (edited) even if she only sees me as a friend, she still doesn't treat me very well. I mean do you ask your friend to go somewhere with you, then decide to take someone else and not tell them, just ignore them for the days leading up to the event. Do you always say to them that you should go do this or that, and then always be to busy to actually go do it. And do you tell them you will call to hang out on the weekend then ignore them all weekend until you are busy doing something else, then start texting them. Doesn't seem like it is very healthy for me to hang around either way. Edited March 4, 2008 by golfer99 spelling error
NiceyDevil Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Hmm do not tell her anything... Really she knows she is in control now and that will only make her even more happy and confirm that she owns you. Thing is, most women are very insecure about themselves and they need this kind of attention to feel good. She is using you for her own purposes, because its part of being a female to test if she can walk all over you or if you have some b4lls. If you want to actually have a shot with this girl IGNORE her completely. Do not flatter her nor be always available for her... Make her see that you are a real man and what she is missing. Flirt with another girls, take things lightly and make yourself rare. This will give you the best chance to actually "get" her. All in all, make HER work for your attention. Just my 2 cents.
Author golfer99 Posted March 6, 2008 Author Posted March 6, 2008 Well here's an update. When I was mad Monday morning I changed my facebook status to say "I have seen the light and am moving on." Well I guess she saw it. On tuesday she mentioned to another girl that she saw it and wondered if it had anything to do with her. She called me that night, I just ignored it, she hasn't tried again. Funny thing is her friend is like you know what would make her really mad. I said what. She said if she knew I talked to you. I said about this subject and she said no just that I talked to you about anything.
Author golfer99 Posted March 8, 2008 Author Posted March 8, 2008 Thats the plan. She hasn't tried to call again and I'm guessing she probably won't.
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