AussieJack Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 I would be really interested in the opinion of the men here (and I really mean men - sorry, but I'm not looking for the views of 19-year olds). I guess my question is whether men like it when a woman makes it clear that she's interested in him. I don't mean hitting on him overtly, or acting desperate, but just not bothering to play games or acting hard to get. I'm kind of starting some online dating, and I really don't want to play games. If I meet someone I like, I want to make it clear that I'm interested and see if he feels the same. But does that somehow lessen the excitement for the man? The thrill of the chase and all of that? Interested in everyone's thoughts. Ladies !!! The old girly game of "playing hard to get" will only, work in a cliumsy way, with guys who find women hard to get, generally- these guys may be fugly or dorky or socially inept OR too "nice" .. Thos e more attrractive guys who have "options" will NOT be bothered in pursuing you if you pull this shyte - they have several other women lined up who DONT play like this. I am interested in women who show interest in me. I do not waste my time with game players and I have no space in my life for immature or insecure women . I am 47 years old and I date women from 20 years old to 50 years old . Nice. !
AussieJack Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 For instance- how should one play this.... Met a guy- he messaged me on plenty of fish. We moved to msn... He has initiated 3 MSN convos in a row- I have not initiated one yet, so I decided to do so this morning when i saw him online.... I said how are you.... and he didn't respond. This is after him initiating three convos- and talking to me for hours on end. So.... according to etiquette- did I ruin his chase by giving him a little something this morning? See? frustrating! Godd gawd woman! Do you really think that your initiating an MSN to a guy "ruined his chase" ? What chase ? He and you have not even met for coffee!! Give me a break here. All that you have done so far is that you have chatted to a stranger who happens to be a man. IF he is interested he will get back to you WHEN he is done working, feeding the dog and the goldfish, played 18 holes and had some beers with his buds,. Then he gets home and does his chores washes the car and starches his collars for tomorrow and calls his neurotic whining mother.. WHAT CHASE ? Lighten up ..You girls need to stop believing "the Rules" That is all Bullshyte.
carhill Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 The Queenslanders have arrived! Seriously, I found the Aussie gals at the festivals we attended to be quite friendly and open. No games whatsoever. A very refreshing change from my experiences as a single man here at home in the states. The female musos were especially hot. Too bad I was married
AussieJack Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 The Queenslanders have arrived! Seriously, I found the Aussie gals at the festivals we attended to be quite friendly and open. No games whatsoever. A very refreshing change from my experiences as a single man here at home in the states. The female musos were especially hot. Too bad I was married If your wife ever gives you grief,dump her and get yourself down here. WE have a surplus of women and they are pretty, generally not infected with feminism and very "friendly" ...
surfcitysiren Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 If your wife ever gives you grief,dump her and get yourself down here. WE have a surplus of women and they are pretty, generally not infected with feminism and very "friendly" ... Wow, really? That's good to hear....a friend of mine who resides in Brissie says he can't get a date for the life of him....I never could figure it out. I found him attractive (and I'm PICKY) and he didn't have tourette's syndrome or anything obviously 'wrong' with him. He told me he found Aussie gals to be fake and stuck up. I have no doubt he'll find someone eventually. Too bad I couldn't hook you two up and you could help him FIND one of these pretty, non infected, friendly creatures! One of these days I'll have to pay the Lucky Country a visit. Good to have you along. Welcome.
D-Lish Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Godd gawd woman! Do you really think that your initiating an MSN to a guy "ruined his chase" ? What chase ? He and you have not even met for coffee!! Give me a break here. All that you have done so far is that you have chatted to a stranger who happens to be a man. IF he is interested he will get back to you WHEN he is done working, feeding the dog and the goldfish, played 18 holes and had some beers with his buds,. Then he gets home and does his chores washes the car and starches his collars for tomorrow and calls his neurotic whining mother.. WHAT CHASE ? Lighten up ..You girls need to stop believing "the Rules" That is all Bullshyte. LOL. I like that you are blunt. I don't want to play any games, besides maybe some 18 holes myself when the snow clears up.
DanielMadr Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 In all that pushing and pulling dont forget to be seductive. You have to get him on a hook first and then do the fish-dance.
DanielMadr Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 If your wife ever gives you grief,dump her and get yourself down here. WE have a surplus of women and they are pretty, generally not infected with feminism and very "friendly" ... Aussie jocks visiting my city (central europe) were talking exactly the opposite. So I wonder. (I was thinking about writing a sheep joke here, but I got flagged so many times on LS, I better skip that. Hi Tony, the censor.)
malaclypse Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 I would be really interested in the opinion of the men here (and I really mean men - sorry, but I'm not looking for the views of 19-year olds). I guess my question is whether men like it when a woman makes it clear that she's interested in him. I don't mean hitting on him overtly, or acting desperate, but just not bothering to play games or acting hard to get. I'm kind of starting some online dating, and I really don't want to play games. If I meet someone I like, I want to make it clear that I'm interested and see if he feels the same. But does that somehow lessen the excitement for the man? The thrill of the chase and all of that? Interested in everyone's thoughts. This whole question is wrong. Don't be so calculating. Be who you are. If you are a direct person, don't be afraid to live it. If you get a guy by playing a role, you will have to keep playing it... So the easy answer is: just be yourself. There's lots of men (me included) who find that attractive. And we can tell...
AussieJack Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Wow, really? That's good to hear....a friend of mine who resides in Brissie says he can't get a date for the life of him....I never could figure it out. I found him attractive (and I'm PICKY) and he didn't have tourette's syndrome or anything obviously 'wrong' with him. He told me he found Aussie gals to be fake and stuck up. I have no doubt he'll find someone eventually. Too bad I couldn't hook you two up and you could help him FIND one of these pretty, non infected, friendly creatures! One of these days I'll have to pay the Lucky Country a visit. Good to have you along. Welcome. Tell him that he is probably TOO polite and perhaps too much of a NICE guy. Is he American or Canadian ?
surfcitysiren Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 Tell him that he is probably TOO polite and perhaps too much of a NICE guy. Is he American or Canadian ? HE'S AUSTRALIAN! LOL! Lives in Brissie. And while he IS very nice, I never found him to be a doormat by any stretch of the imaginiation. I have to tell one on myself and admit that I'm the kind of girl who usually eats the "nice guys" for brekkie, so I'm not sure that's it. But could be....could be..... Maybe I just made an exception for him w/o realizing it! LOL.
AussieJack Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 HE'S AUSTRALIAN! LOL! Lives in Brissie. And while he IS very nice, I never found him to be a doormat by any stretch of the imaginiation. I have to tell one on myself and admit that I'm the kind of girl who usually eats the "nice guys" for brekkie, so I'm not sure that's it. But could be....could be..... Maybe I just made an exception for him w/o realizing it! LOL. He cant get a date in Brisbane ? WTf is he ? A three legged dwarf with green skin? There are so many single women here - all you need is a pulse and a car( forget the car if you do not want a "princess" type.) Telll him to try the homeless chicks - after the date you can drop em off anyplace.
Angels&Airwaves Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 He cant get a date in Brisbane ? WTf is he ? A three legged dwarf with green skin?. I'm wetting my daks, here.
DanielMadr Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 HE'S AUSTRALIAN! LOL! Lives in Brissie. And while he IS very nice, I never found him to be a doormat by any stretch of the imaginiation. I have to tell one on myself and admit that I'm the kind of girl who usually eats the "nice guys" for brekkie, so I'm not sure that's it. But could be....could be..... Maybe I just made an exception for him w/o realizing it! LOL. Thats the all point in being Too Nice. He is OK but once he sees future mother of his children he becomes one little charming babbling titty sucking little baby who barely walks. I know a few very very very tough guys who have this exact switch. I think it is the good-guy-for-mommy thing. Freud where are you?
carhill Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 If your wife ever gives you grief,dump her and get yourself down here. WE have a surplus of women and they are pretty, generally not infected with feminism and very "friendly" ... I noted the girls out west (Perth to be precise) were a bit more feral. More smokers, rough, but still put on the dog when going out at night. Still friendly and real. My wife is a Keith Urban fan so we have followed his tours both here in the states and in Australia. I found it pretty cool the Oz locals didn't mob the band and pretty much left them alone. Same with the "known" musos that we ran into. The women love them but don't get trashy about it in public. More refined (in public) Our ladies just love those Aussie accents; very seductive. Work it guys
surfcitysiren Posted March 7, 2008 Posted March 7, 2008 He cant get a date in Brisbane ? WTf is he ? A three legged dwarf with green skin? There are so many single women here - all you need is a pulse and a car( forget the car if you do not want a "princess" type.) Telll him to try the homeless chicks - after the date you can drop em off anyplace. I'm almost pissing myself laughing. No! He's tall dark and handsome! He has manners but he's still a bit rough around the edges (just like I like 'em!!!) and very much your 'typical Aussie male'. He IS a bit shy, but aside from that.....he seems good to me...and again, I'm very, very picky and I would have been with him in a heartbeat if my situation were different.
Author so_sad Posted March 8, 2008 Author Posted March 8, 2008 If your wife ever gives you grief,dump her and get yourself down here. WE have a surplus of women and they are pretty, generally not infected with feminism and very "friendly" ... I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that the "infected with feminism" is a joke (albeit not a good one). In your previous post you tell us girls that "the Rules" are bulls***, but then you make a crack about feminism? Okaaayyy.
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 It's hard to explain, because all the Aussie gals we know (plenty) are hard working professionals but they still take care of their men (I don't mean clean house) in a very traditional way. I think that's what AussieJack meant. Feminism is an attitude. I like strong-minded, intelligent women, but at a certain point it becomes "mannish" and is a turn-off, at least to me.
AussieJack Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that the "infected with feminism" is a joke (albeit not a good one). In your previous post you tell us girls that "the Rules" are bulls***, but then you make a crack about feminism? Okaaayyy. Please don't give me the "benefit of the doubt ", you condescending wench. When I said "infected with feminism" I meant exacly that. Feminism is a bloody virus. We have firewalls for computer viruses, what do we have to block the idiocy of wave 3 feminism . AS for "the Rules" - more imbicilic advice from some woman aimed at gullible paperback jockettes. Women giving other women advice ? That's just as smart and useful as going to the hardware store for a loaf of bread// Hey So-sad(excellent name BTW) I think I am gonna come on over there and take you down to the carpark and spank some friggen sense into you. Ha ha !
AussieJack Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 He IS a bit shy, but aside from that.....he seems good to me...and again, I'm very, very picky and I would have been with him in a heartbeat if my situation were different. Yeah, Aussie guys are generally shy ( like me) but with a heart as big as Queensland (which is 6 times the size of TX). We are all good to our women (even the difficult ones who read Cosmo) Heck, yesterday I even stacked the dishwasher and tonight I am cooking dinner. Campbells Soup and 3 minute rice - damn, she is a lucky gal.
AussieJack Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 Our ladies just love those Aussie accents; very seductive. Work it guys Yeah, I remember this little honey whose father owned a motel in Baton Rouge back in '89. I stayed with them for a week - she gave me the best " room service" .. All I had to do was say ten words in a Queensland accent. Nice !
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I don't know but I just had a feeling you were a Queenslander. Met a bunch from Queensland when we were at Tamworth last year for the festival. Great pub fun
surfcitysiren Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 I don't know but I just had a feeling you were a Queenslander. Met a bunch from Queensland when we were at Tamworth last year for the festival. Great pub fun LOL! Me too......I once had a bf from Melbourne and could see a difference between him and my friend from QLD.....there is a subtle difference, at least in my own mind....! SoSad----don't take offense to anything AussieJack says----He's AUSTRALIAN-----just leave it at that and LAUGH. That's how you should take it. AussieJack, you larrakin, you! ; ) Maybe I need to be getting direct advice from.........YOU! Since my whole reason for being on this site is because of a LDR with a fellow Queenslander....LOL!
carhill Posted March 8, 2008 Posted March 8, 2008 Oh, yikes, no love lost between Victorians and Queenslanders. I don't think the Victorians noses were long enough to look down I remember mentioning the Gympie Muster when I was in Melbourne and people looked at me like I had two heads. I think the only thing that saved my @ss was my American accent
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