Elena62 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Crumbs I'm finding it so hard today. I've been NC for a whole month! The sun was out, today. I wanted to go for a run, instead, I stayed home and cleaned for five hours. When I stopped and sat down for a while, I started to remember things the bad things first, then the good things. The real good things - and then I started shaking. I've never experienced that before and then I started to really cry and sob. I've been very unsettled ever since. I feel so numb, is this normal at all?
s_n_d Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Yeah it is normal. Ive been numb practically since the breakup. I too have done NC for a month a few days now. For the last few days, it has been especially hard for me. Ive dreamt about him constantly and been thinking of him every single second of every minute of every hour of every day. This has been the longest few days for me.
Author Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 Thank you! For a moment I thought I was going nuts or something Thanks for your reply
BalancenLuv20 Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 Elena I'm at nearly a month of NC too wonderful job for being able to accomplish that... It is a picture perfect day outside and I have no one to spend with except myself I feel like... I took a little walk, but that was it...then went back in my room...parents have been yelling at me for being distant lately...i thought i was doing good, but I guess I've just struck a bad chord for now...hopefully I can get my act together this week and stop feeling so lonely and isolated from society...you're not the only one i promise i promise i promise... i can picture us holding up a glass at a secluded restaurant with a to-die-for view of the ocean at sunset saying "cheers, better times ahead" to me, you, and everyone else in the same boat...
Meaplus3 Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 Crumbs I'm finding it so hard today. I've been NC for a whole month! The sun was out, today. I wanted to go for a run, instead, I stayed home and cleaned for five hours. When I stopped and sat down for a while, I started to remember things the bad things first, then the good things. The real good things - and then I started shaking. I've never experienced that before and then I started to really cry and sob. I've been very unsettled ever since. I feel so numb, is this normal at all? Very normal! NC is not easy.. and in the beginning you pretty much end up sorting through a ton of feeling's..this can be confusing. Try and take each day as it come's. Congrat's on 1 month of NC that's great! You can do it. Hang in there. AP:)
sandflea Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 Crumbs I'm finding it so hard today. I've been NC for a whole month! The sun was out, today. I wanted to go for a run, instead, I stayed home and cleaned for five hours. When I stopped and sat down for a while, I started to remember things the bad things first, then the good things. The real good things - and then I started shaking. I've never experienced that before and then I started to really cry and sob. I've been very unsettled ever since. I feel so numb, is this normal at all? cleaning is good - it clears out the ghosts, and it IS springtime after all. Try to make time for that run too - it's spring cleaning for the space between your ears - and it will make you feel much MUCH better. The shaking is normal. I've been there too. It goes away after a while... So does the numbness. You'll get your smile back. Guaranteed. SF
Author Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 Elena I'm at nearly a month of NC too wonderful job for being able to accomplish that... It is a picture perfect day outside and I have no one to spend with except myself I feel like... I took a little walk, but that was it...then went back in my room...parents have been yelling at me for being distant lately...i thought i was doing good, but I guess I've just struck a bad chord for now...hopefully I can get my act together this week and stop feeling so lonely and isolated from society...you're not the only one i promise i promise i promise... i can picture us holding up a glass at a secluded restaurant with a to-die-for view of the ocean at sunset saying "cheers, better times ahead" to me, you, and everyone else in the same boat... Well done on going a month without contact. An ocean view and the sound of crashing waves may be just the tonic I need!
Author Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 Try and take each day as it come's. Congrat's on 1 month of NC that's great! You can do it. Hang in there. AP:) I'm giving it my best shot! I's still numb, but today was better, I got tons or work done. Thanks for your reply I do appreciate it!
Author Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 cleaning is good - it clears out the ghosts, and it IS springtime after all. Try to make time for that run too - it's spring cleaning for the space between your ears - and it will make you feel much MUCH better. The shaking is normal. I've been there too. It goes away after a while... So does the numbness. You'll get your smile back. Guaranteed. SF I went to the gym, earlier, and it did me the world of good! I love working out and cycling, swimming - so I'm using that to give myself some space. What gets me is the shaking, it will start up for no reason. I have found that doing deep breathing exercises really help. I used to meditate, years ago, maybe I should get back to that. Isn't it strange how some days are just so good, and other days are really rotten. My GF's tell me I have a great smile, and I do intend to get it back 100% Thanks for your support
dfreeman Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 What gets me is the shaking, it will start up for no reason. Isn't it strange how some days are just so good, and other days are really rotten. I don't get the shakes, but that pain in my gut still comes back (used to have it for days on end, now just for a few minutes every few days). The weirdest thing is that it used to trigger sadness and emptiness, but now it just triggers anger toward her and how the breakup went down. I'm just glad that I am finally having more good days than rotten ones (broken up 8 wks), but my heart is still there for those on LS that have mostly bad days.
Author Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Author Posted March 3, 2008 I don't get the shakes, but that pain in my gut still comes back (used to have it for days on end, now just for a few minutes every few days). The weirdest thing is that it used to trigger sadness and emptiness, but now it just triggers anger toward her and how the breakup went down. I'm just glad that I am finally having more good days than rotten ones (broken up 8 wks), but my heart is still there for those on LS that have mostly bad days. Physical reactions to emotional pain, you got it, too! I'm so glad I'm not the only one, and I don't mean that in a horrible way. I really thought i was going nuts! After the shaking, I got really tearful. I didn't have that today! I'm not angry, not real angry yet. The OM hasn't made me feel anger, only very deep sadness. And I know we'll never speak again.
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