lenz0223 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 How important is physical intimacy on the first 2 dates? What should the expectations be on the first 2 dates?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Physical intimacy doesn't not mean sex. I suppose two dates warrant hugs and hand holding. Light touching is okay, like a brief brush of the hands, or an occasional hand brushing back the hair.
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Physical intimacy doesn't not mean sex Freudian slip?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Freudian slip? I meant to write physical intimacy doesn't necessary have to be about sex... .... and now I'm at a lost for words.
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Busted! I'd really like to hear this from the OP, as it does have bearing. For me, it would be situational. If my intended was an old friend for whom I'd had long dormant feelings of attraction, and I discovered them to be mutual, physical intimacy might be pretty intense and sexual (I don't mean intercourse here) pretty quickly, since I already had the emotional bond of friendship prior. Conversely, if it were a new relationship with no history, I might go a number of dates with minimal physical contact, other than as suggested here prior, until I felt a desire within myself and my intended for more. For clarity on my perspective, my wife an I met online about 10 years ago (infancy of internet "dating") and didn't know each other in real life prior. I don't believe I kissed her until our 3rd date and real "sex" didn't happen for a number of months. We dated for 18 months prior to marriage (engaged for 8) and didn't live together until married.
Green Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 i would atleast try some flirtatious touching and go for a kiss on the first 2 dates at a minimum. I say its very important, shows your interested
AriaIncognito Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 I'd agree with KMT. I'd presume I'd feel enough to at least kiss the guy by the 2-3rd date. Waiting too long to kiss him, for me, would mean i was apprehensive about the guy for some reason. Not a good sign for me. As for intercourse, that's a month or two usually, depending on how many times we've seen eachother of course.
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