sam light Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 On all too rare evenings I have an overnite female guest. What sort of things do you like or dislike about a man's home? What sort of considerations do you really appreciate? I keep the place clean and have spare towels/toothbrushes etc. If I expect this date, the sheets will be freshly washed. Otherwise I wash them weekly. Thinking maybe: Flowers, scents, sheet styles (silk?), feminine hygene items, I'm redoing my bedroom and willing to make it an inviting, comforting place. Remember it's still a man's home, the object is to cater to women without me seeming gay.
Geishawhelk Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Soft lighting, tasteful decor, minimalism... and above all, keep it tidy!
Geishawhelk Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Sorry... edit facility is playing up... I think if you have too much 'female paraphenalia' a lady might think you're a regular player and it's left over from a previous encounter. Flowers are nice, but healthy plants are more.... genuine.... As you say, you want to come over as caring (which i'm sure you are....!) but don't go overboard. A spare toothbrush is a nice touch.... leave it in the packaging though.
Lizzie60 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 On all too rare evenings I have an overnite female guest. What sort of things do you like or dislike about a man's home? What sort of considerations do you really appreciate? I keep the place clean and have spare towels/toothbrushes etc. If I expect this date, the sheets will be freshly washed. Otherwise I wash them weekly. Thinking maybe: Flowers, scents, sheet styles (silk?), feminine hygene items, I'm redoing my bedroom and willing to make it an inviting, comforting place. Remember it's still a man's home, the object is to cater to women without me seeming gay. Do not change anything... keep it 'personal'.. as long as it is clean (a must) and if it's masculine (hotel chic) that's a bonus.. it tells the woman you have good taste.. spare towels and toothbrush is nice thought.. bathrooms MUST be clean... and the linens fresh... Don't go overboard with decorations.. candles, feminine hygiene stuff... and flowers... keep it simple and inviting..
Letranger Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Just keep it clean and smelling good. No dirty clothes, crumbs, pet smell, etc. Oh, and no issues of Screw or Barely Legal in the bathroom
Lizzie60 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Just keep it clean and smelling good. No dirty clothes, crumbs, pet smell, etc. Oh, and no issues of Screw or Barely Legal in the bathroom that's sooo true..
Letranger Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Someday I hope to have enough money to afford both two wives and two separate places of living, and then I can run an experiment on being a typical male slob and a clean one.
Lizzie60 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Someday I hope to have enough money to afford both two wives and two separate places of living, and then I can run an experiment on being a typical male slob and a clean one. Interesting... if you ever do the experiment.. come back and tell us all about it..
Letranger Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Interesting... if you ever do the experiment.. come back and tell us all about it.. I'm renewing my subscriptions as we speak. I even included Bushy Tails and Silver Foxes in the mix...
SeraBella Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 The main thing I like is cleanliness, clean smelling. I would find it odd if he had feminine products because I would wonder just how many/how often females were over. Any other "considerations" I would appreciate more only if we've been dating/seeing each other for a while and he has picked up on things I like, or I've told him...such as a type of soda, tea, coffee that I like, or having the food to prepare one of my favorite breakfast foods, maybe a snack or dessert I like, etc.
Author sam light Posted March 2, 2008 Author Posted March 2, 2008 Thanks ladies (and ranger). Clean is good. Is minimalism just a Geishawhelk preference or is it a masculine trait that's expected? I'm a modern porn consumer, it's all on the net so there's no xxx mags under the bed.
carhill Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Sanitize that laptop buddy. Women are nosy From a guy who was single and owned his own home for 15 years prior to getting married: Keep it clean and in your style. That includes the closets
SeraBella Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Sanitize that laptop buddy. Women are nosy From a guy who was single and owned his own home for 15 years prior to getting married: Keep it clean and in your style. That includes the closets I don't know if you mean metaphorical closets, or a literal closet, but both work. I really dislike nosey people going through my closets, but I've had a few men do that. There was nothing to hide, but the one was just getting the "tour" of my place, and as he went through was opening up every door and drawer he could. I jokingly commented, but I was definitely annoyed with it. Oh, and medicine cabinets...there's a lot of people who snoop in those...so clean it out and if there's something in there you may not want her to see, keep it elsewhere. So, yes, keep everything tidy, including closets.
Lyssa Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 The main thing I like is cleanliness, clean smelling. I would find it odd if he had feminine products because I would wonder just how many/how often females were over. Any other "considerations" I would appreciate more only if we've been dating/seeing each other for a while and he has picked up on things I like, or I've told him...such as a type of soda, tea, coffee that I like, or having the food to prepare one of my favorite breakfast foods, maybe a snack or dessert I like, etc. I'm with everyone else especially Serabella. I would feel very flattered if he had picked up on things I like and told him about them. Would be a very nice way to get to a woman... well, this woman anyway!
Gunny376 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 An excellent book that covers this very subject in detail is "Mayflower Manners ~ Etiqutte for Consenting Adults by Sydney Biddle Barrows, ISBN No. # 0-385-41745-4 (The international number by which to order books by) You might also want to scour the bookstores for Men's Health latest magazine "Men's Health ~ Living" which covers topics such as these? You would definately would want to consider having a spare toothbrush around (in the original un-opened packaged ~ but just one ~ keep the other dozen or so hidden away! A good un-opened razor package (masculine type as in Gillette Fussion ~ you can get the shaving kit, the razor and a couple of blades cheaper than a four pack re-fill cheaper) instead of her using your razor ~ as in"Here use this?" Some generic non-descript body lotion. Extra points if you apply and give her a full body massage. An extra masuline housecoat for her to use ~ but be careful. Those expensive, extra strong feminine perfumes linger. This is where the cheap Walmart versions come in handy ~ but if she's extra specail? Break out the more expensive ones! Towels? This isn't where you want to go cheap! Egyptian 100 thread count! They cost more, but you can't go wrong with having good quality towels and bathclothes. Conditioners? Yea? I know, but a good quality conditioner you want to have in the shower. Shower stick. Availaible at Lowes, Home Depot and WalMart. Allows you to take a shower without getting your hair wet. Breakfast tray. And a vase, get up and cook her breakfast. Serve her breakfast in bed. Or at least coffee, and English Muffin, or a bagel? Walmart sells frozen sausage patties and eggs (in the frozen section) 2-3 minutes in the microwave plus an toasted English muffin? Walla! EggMcMuffin. For more ideas check out Men's Health's cookbook series "A Man, A Can, A Plan!"
BlueEyedGirl Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 There is nothing wrong with porn as long as it's not all over your house/apartment. I tend to "snoop" and look thorough a guy's computer any chance I get to find what kind of porn he is into. I'm fine with everything except kiddy or teen porn and really weird fetishes. As for the type of place, don't bother with candles or flowers - this would make me think either a guy is a closet gay or he has a gf.
RecordProducer Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 (edited) Make sure your fridge has what it's supposed to have. For extra treatment - cook for her or order some fancy, sexy food. Both are equally flattering and acceptable. I would feel very, very humiliated if I was invited overnight and not offered to eat. People do get hungry and need to be hosted nicely when invited to stay for more than 2-3 hours. Have snacks in the living room (or bedroom) and sandwich items in the fridge and tell her to feel free to grab whatever she wants from the fridge. Ask her if she is hungry once every so often. Juices, bottled water, beer/wine, and dessert should also be available. Make some salad in front of her. Food is an important part of creating relationships. It brings people closer. The more (and better) food you offer the more caring and generous you seem. Other than that, just keep the place clean and neat and have new-looking towels in the bathroom. Edited March 2, 2008 by RecordProducer
Gold Pile Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 I hide the Pam Anderson inflatable love-doll under the bed. My leather love-swing is suspended from the ceiling just inside my bedroom. It's readily visable from outside the room so she can see what delights await her. I keep a "too cute" kitten photo (I got it for $1 at an old clearance sale) stashed in a closet. If I know she's a cat person I have it on display and claim it's my recently deceased cherished pet. Have a lite air freshener try to stick with one scent...it will become your trademark scent to her and help put her in the mood on subsequent visits. Offer condom choices... ribbed, ultra thin, pleasure nubs, etc Tip: wear the ribbed ones inside out...it feels great.
RecordProducer Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Offer condom choices... ribbed, ultra thin, pleasure nubs, etc God forbid! The last thing you want is for your apartment to look like a sex shop that works 24/7 and offers a great assortiment of products for everyone's taste.
Kamille Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Ok it sounds like you don't need this perticular piece of advice, but in case some bachelor neophyte is reading this, let me just say my number one male appartment pet peeve: Bachelors who are out of toilet paper. Girls need toilet paper. Every time.
Trialbyfire Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 It must be clean or I won't play. I won't share sheets/towels with anything that has more than two legs and isn't the intended object of desire. Beyond that, please use soap without a masculine scent. Irish Spring is not my preferred scent. Use something like Ivory Snow, with little to no smell, and provide a decent shampoo and conditioner. It's also wonderful if you have a new toothbrush, toothpaste, dental floss and real coffee. The rest I would expect to be tailored to male needs and tastes.
carhill Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 Ok it sounds like you don't need this perticular piece of advice, but in case some bachelor neophyte is reading this, let me just say my number one male appartment pet peeve: Bachelors who are out of toilet paper. Girls need toilet paper. Every time. Boy do they. I think that's why quadruple rolls were invented Oh, yeah, food is love. Learned that many years ago. Always cooked and baked for dates whom I had over for dinner. Of course, now my wife and I fight over the kitchen
RecordProducer Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 (edited) It must be clean or I won't play. I won't share sheets/towels with anything that has more than two legs and isn't the intended object of desire. More than two legs = 3, 4, 5... 100. Beyond that, please use soap without a masculine scent. Irish Spring is not my preferred scent. Use something like Ivory Snow,Why didn't you say right away that YOU're the female company he expects? Edited March 5, 2008 by RecordProducer
Trialbyfire Posted March 5, 2008 Posted March 5, 2008 More than two legs = 3, 4, 5... 100. I do have to correct my post. Three legs are a must... Why didn't you say right away that YOU're the female company he expects? Uh, uh, no way. I'm otherwise...occupied.
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