ddkeifo Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I'd just like some insight from the outside world. I guess this doesn't really count as a dating dilemma or anything. I met this guy at work a few months ago and we hit it off. We're both kind of quiet, I'm more talkative than he is. We've been on three dates so far, but haven't kissed, only hugged and held hands. I really think he is a great guy and I don't want to mess this up, but it's hard to tell how he thinks of me. Sure, he asks me out and pays for everything (even though I try to get him to split it b/c I don't want him wasting all his money) and we seem to have a good time together. I guess I'm just confused b/c part of me really likes him but part of me thinks there's nothing really there. Are these normal feelings to be having when you start dating somebody? I'm definitely attracted to him which is a good start since that always seems to get in the way for me, but do you think he likes me? He hasn't tried to kiss me or anything, which seems unusual. Though I have a feeling he's never had a girlfriend before.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 There's nothing to be so worked up over. These feelings are normal at the starting point of casual dating- infatuation and question their feelings for you. Like I tell others on LS, sometimes its not relevant to overthink these things, because whats important is having a great and wonderful time with each other, and enjoying each other's company. I'm sure he feels the same way, he's attracted to you. The basic components that I think leads up to a relationship: attraction/infatuation, like and love. Let it go at its pace, if it happens then it would. Don't question it. It'll just give you a headache.
Tony6 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I think his feelings will eventually come out, but hey why not just ask him how feels about you.
maryjane1 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Hun. What are you waiting for? The kid is scared. Just kiss him. If you really want a special experience just reach over when you are alone with him and start massaging his crotch. Just do it right out of the blue. Or if you are at his place or your place. Go into the bathroom and take all your cloths off. Then call for him. Just say "can you come here for a second". Then present yourself to him. It will be especially memerable since he is probably a virgin and something tells me you may be too. Or when he hugs you next time. Wisper softly in his ear "I want something hard that you can give me." There are a lot of other ways to do it. But these are pretty good ones.
jam88 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 this is sorta like the problem i have atm which is similar.. i'll tell u my story,, i met a girl at work and we went out casually.. we prety much hugged n held hands when we went out for a drink but we never came to kissing.. now knowing that we were quite drink you'd think we would have kissed.. what im tryin to say is.. guys dont always like going in for the kiss incase they screw up or they think you dont like them back.. both of you have to really go in for the kiss at the same time, you need to look at him like you want him to realy kiss your face off. he'll get it eventually, 'he asks me out and pays for everything' this proves straight away that he likes you.. a friend doesnt pay for you.. he likes you and is spending money on you. he could be inexperienced which is why he doesnt make the move or.. hes been out with too many forward girls who did the work for him. just kiss him or give him a hint that you want a kiss you;ll get there dont worry, gd luck
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