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Been a lurker, now I need to post. So I am completely smitten with this guy and I have been off and on for a few years now. We've been friends for several years now. I don't even know why I like him, he really doesn't have much going for him. He's not someone that I even found attractive(at all) when I first met him, in fact I found him rather un-attractive. It's all his personality. I am completely drawn to it. He is such a unique person, I've never met anyone like him. Yes, he's immature, especially for his age(late 20s), but it doesn't bother me because I'm immature too(early 20s). lol

 

Any way, this guy is all I can think about. Lately we've been talking a lot online, a lot more than we ever use too. In fact, I feel like our "friendship" has progressed a few 100x more in these past few months than in the past several years combined. He knows that I like him, or that I at least *use* to like him now too because I told him I use to like him.

 

I feel like he intentionally plays this little give and take game with me. I can't ever tell if he's being serious. Like he'll say something that hints that he's trying to gauge if I like him or not, or find out what I look for in a guy, then when I answer him he'll be like, "I was just joking." or I'll ask why he asked and he'll say "no reason." or just reply " *sigh* ". Or he'll joke about us being similar or "twins", or when he logs off AIM with me, he'll put "xoxo" at the end as a joke("hugs and kisses") or like yesterday I did him a favor and he's like "thanks. I love you forever". Or say crap like "you don't love anything. except yourself. and me".

 

Another example, from a few days ago. We were talking and out of no where, he's like "what's your address?", I was like "umm...why? that's a weird question.". Then he's like "well I was going to come make out with you, but now you've offended me." I laughed at him, then he's like "no really, I wanted to use you as a job reference.", which, before anyone gets on to me --- makes perfect sense because he's been looking for a job for the past several months. He talks about it alot, and we use to work together for 3 years. No, I don't think he's a stalker or that he's going to come drive by my house or kill me before any one gets on me for giving it to him. Then he's like "you have to tell them I was a hard worker at (old job)." Then he's like "and that I look good in black pants" and then "and that I have beautiful eyes." He asked for my phone # too, FOR THE REFERENCE, I know he won't actually call me(sigh).

 

Any way, what on earth is with this game? Does he just talk to me for an ego-boost or what? Is he crazy? (am I crazy?) Advice?

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Been a lurker, now I need to post. So I am completely smitten with this guy and I have been off and on for a few years now. We've been friends for several years now. I don't even know why I like him, he really doesn't have much going for him. He's not someone that I even found attractive(at all) when I first met him, in fact I found him rather un-attractive. It's all his personality. I am completely drawn to it. He is such a unique person, I've never met anyone like him. Yes, he's immature, especially for his age(late 20s), but it doesn't bother me because I'm immature too(early 20s). lol

 

Any way, this guy is all I can think about. Lately we've been talking a lot online, a lot more than we ever use too. In fact, I feel like our "friendship" has progressed a few 100x more in these past few months than in the past several years combined. He knows that I like him, or that I at least *use* to like him now too because I told him I use to like him.

 

I feel like he intentionally plays this little give and take game with me. I can't ever tell if he's being serious. Like he'll say something that hints that he's trying to gauge if I like him or not, or find out what I look for in a guy, then when I answer him he'll be like, "I was just joking." or I'll ask why he asked and he'll say "no reason." or just reply " *sigh* ". Or he'll joke about us being similar or "twins", or when he logs off AIM with me, he'll put "xoxo" at the end as a joke("hugs and kisses") or like yesterday I did him a favor and he's like "thanks. I love you forever". Or say crap like "you don't love anything. except yourself. and me".

 

Another example, from a few days ago. We were talking and out of no where, he's like "what's your address?", I was like "umm...why? that's a weird question.". Then he's like "well I was going to come make out with you, but now you've offended me." I laughed at him, then he's like "no really, I wanted to use you as a job reference.", which, before anyone gets on to me --- makes perfect sense because he's been looking for a job for the past several months. He talks about it alot, and we use to work together for 3 years. No, I don't think he's a stalker or that he's going to come drive by my house or kill me before any one gets on me for giving it to him. Then he's like "you have to tell them I was a hard worker at (old job)." Then he's like "and that I look good in black pants" and then "and that I have beautiful eyes." He asked for my phone # too, FOR THE REFERENCE, I know he won't actually call me(sigh).

 

Any way, what on earth is with this game? Does he just talk to me for an ego-boost or what? Is he crazy? (am I crazy?) Advice?

In my opinion, I think he currently has nothing going on for him, he's bored, so he turned to the next best thing to ease his boredom: You. He knows that you like or used to like him, so he's playing these little games to gauge you and boost his little selfish ego. Despite feelings he may or may not have for you, I think that he will try to pursue a relationship with you, but it might not be something that would last long term.

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How long do you want to do this little cat/mouse game with him? Maybe he likes you, maybe he doesn't, maybe that's the game? To keep you guessing and on your toes.

 

I say, just come right and ask him out. Stop talking online and GO out for dinner. If he says no, then atleast you'll know what's what. Question is, what do you want from him? Friendship? Relationship?

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