This is for OW/OM..

[Lyssa]

Yes, WF, holding thumbs!

 

LOL! I actually know what that means!!!!!

[Daphne Crane]

That is nice of your MM! You get to call him any time of the day.

 

Does he hang up quickly if W comes into the room when he's on the phone with you?

 

There was a time when I called and I knew he was at home, I ask are you busy. When he said not really, I knew she was in the room and he did say, I will call you back. I asked him, did I say I was finished with the conversation....I called you for a reason. He said oh ok. Then I told him I just wanted to know if he would answer the phone.

 

There's only been one time when she walked into the room and she asked him a question and he answered her. I asked him "is she still in the room looking at you" and he answered yes. So, me being the nice person that I am, I told him I was going to let him go but before I do I have a question. I asked him, can you say my name....better yet, it would be kinda f**ked up if I said, if you love me like you say you love me, you would tell me you love me right now. He told me, I will tell you if you want me to.....I said boy bye and hung up the phone.

[White Flower]

LOL! I actually know what that means!!!!!

 

You might as well be american, Lyssa! You're such a world travelor.

[White Flower]

Hey DC, did you like the show, 'Frazier', or something? I loved it and I loved Daphne Crane. She was so quirky!

[nellstar]

There's only been one time when she walked into the room and she asked him a question and he answered her. I asked him "is she still in the room looking at you" and he answered yes. So, me being the nice person that I am, I told him I was going to let him go but before I do I have a question. I asked him, can you say my name....better yet, it would be kinda f**ked up if I said, if you love me like you say you love me, you would tell me you love me right now. He told me, I will tell you if you want me to.....I said boy bye and hung up the phone.

 

So did he or did he not say it?

 

I don't really care if he was busy with his W, I mean she is his W but sometimes I wish I could call him at any time. Then again, I have my single guy friends..... they are just not the same.

[Daphne Crane]

Hey DC, did you like the show, 'Frazier', or something? I loved it and I loved Daphne Crane. She was so quirky!

 

 

Yes, I like that show. Do you remember part of the storyline about Niles being in love with Daphne for years and she had no idea? Maris was the cold hearted wife that really didn't have anything to do with Niles or his side of the family.

 

About a year or so ago, MM (which I now call him Niles-and yes, he answers) came back into my life and confessed to me that he has been in love with me since '95. Just like the show, everyone (his mother, father, brothers, and sister) knew about his feelings for me except me. I remember when his mother walked up to me and said you are that girl. I asked what girl, she said the girl that my son is so crazy about. But his W is like Maris in so many ways.

[Nixson]

Yes, WF, holding thumbs! Travelling with MM has really brought us closer together - in his country, him showing me his life, in my country with me doing likewise, and us exploring new places together that neither of us have been to before.

 

But if that was all we'd had together, we probably wouldn't be so sure we could work out together with the daily grind. It's really only been living together for long periods at a time, working and paying bills and hassling with kids and chores and traffic that have shown us we're comfortable and happy around each other when the excitement of holidays isn't there to boost us. We're lucky, we have complementary strengths and compatible interests, and while being treated like a princess jetting around the world is great, being treated like an equal at home is even better!

 

Traveling and even sharing the ups and downs of what you or MM face every day help the bond you have with each other stronger. It is not easy going to foreign countries with someone you don't see often but I can say that that's the fun in it. You see your other half at its worst and best.

 

It's good that both you and MM complement each other. I can say the same about me and my girlfriend.

 

LOL! I actually know what that means!!!!!

 

Holding thumbs here too......

[Daphne Crane]

So did he or did he not say it?

 

I don't really care if he was busy with his W, I mean she is his W but sometimes I wish I could call him at any time. Then again, I have my single guy friends..... they are just not the same.

 

 

He tried to say it but I didn't let him. She knows of me. She knows I'm the one that got away and he told her one day that he seen me. He said she stopped dead in her tracks. She asked him, does she know you are married?

 

I told him that I really didn't care if he is busy or not with her. I asked him, am I really suppose to care...because when I need you I need you. I have some single guy friends also and you are right....it is not the same.

 

I think my situation may be a little different. They don't share the same bedroom. If the two of them go some where, they never ride together. He pay his bills and she pays hers....and they split the rent.

[White Flower]

Yes, I like that show. Do you remember part of the storyline about Niles being in love with Daphne for years and she had no idea? Maris was the cold hearted wife that really didn't have anything to do with Niles or his side of the family.

 

About a year or so ago, MM (which I now call him Niles-and yes, he answers) came back into my life and confessed to me that he has been in love with me since '95. Just like the show, everyone (his mother, father, brothers, and sister) knew about his feelings for me except me. I remember when his mother walked up to me and said you are that girl. I asked what girl, she said the girl that my son is so crazy about. But his W is like Maris in so many ways.

That is such a cute story. Too bad we couldn't look into crystal balls and see what our spouses would turn out like 20 years later. I'm sure your MM didn't believe he was in for a life time with Maris! And I wasn't in it for a life time with a gambler. Everyone on this thread has a story I'm sure. Some get lucky I guess...

[OWoman]

I think my situation may be a little different. They don't share the same bedroom. If the two of them go some where, they never ride together. He pay his bills and she pays hers....and they split the rent.

 

My MM's M was like that too - but of course you won't get many people here believing that that's not just a story he's spinning you, "just like he lies to his W". Whether or not you've seen it with your own eyes. Whether or not you've heard it independently from other people (including friends or family who may have stayed with them). Whether or not it's consistent with everything else you hear or observe. It's inconceivable that a MM might actually be telling his OW the truth, after all .

 

I don't think it's so surprising. I grew up watching my mother and father live totally separate lives. They never shared a bed during the entire time - though they must have made some forays into a shared space at some prior stage or there wouldn't have been any children - and from my mid childhood, neither a room, meals, social life, tv, or anything. They were simply never in the same space at the same time. To me, that was "normal" and so when I visited friends where the mother and father ate together, sat together or - god help us - hugged or kissed, I found it deeply uncomfortable, as if I'd strayed into a porn movie.

 

But all too many of my friends' homes were the same as mine - cold war at best, else global thermonuclear warfare.

[Daphne Crane]

My MM's M was like that too - but of course you won't get many people here believing that that's not just a story he's spinning you, "just like he lies to his W". Whether or not you've seen it with your own eyes. Whether or not you've heard it independently from other people (including friends or family who may have stayed with them). Whether or not it's consistent with everything else you hear or observe. It's inconceivable that a MM might actually be telling his OW the truth, after all .

 

I don't think it's so surprising. I grew up watching my mother and father live totally separate lives. They never shared a bed during the entire time - though they must have made some forays into a shared space at some prior stage or there wouldn't have been any children - and from my mid childhood, neither a room, meals, social life, tv, or anything. They were simply never in the same space at the same time. To me, that was "normal" and so when I visited friends where the mother and father ate together, sat together or - god help us - hugged or kissed, I found it deeply uncomfortable, as if I'd strayed into a porn movie.

 

But all too many of my friends' homes were the same as mine - cold war at best, else global thermonuclear warfare.

 

 

I know it's not some story that he is just telling me. He doesn't have a reason to lie to me. He knows that if he lies to me...especially if I find out the truth...that it's okay because I GOT SOMETHING FOR THAT! It doesn't matter how big or small...it can be something as simple as it's raining outside when the sun is shining. It will just speed up the process of me being DONE WITH HIM AND THE WHOLE SITUATION. It doesn't matter if he/she is married, single, and/or have a significant other... is capable of stretching the true or telling bold face lies.

 

As far as the other people on this site, they are entitled to their opinion. I read a lot of their posts and some are right, some are mean and hateful, and some are just......well, IT IS WHAT IT IS!

 

Yes they do for the most part live totally separate lives. And I encourage him to get it together and do whatever it takes to get his marriage back on the right track. He keeps saying but she is not you. I tell him, it's only one of me....you were the one who went out and got a almost look alike.