tigre Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I quit her friendship. I couldnt hide my feelings for her. I did it for one year and I was rejected two times and got stuck in friend zone. As antecedent I was in a relationship collapsing during the year I met her. Once splited with my ex. I began to hang around with her a lot because as friends we were a nice team. We knew how to have fun. Incidents began when everytime I was going to pubs I saw her flirting with others. My jealousy increased and I expressed it. We didnt have contact for two months because she traveled. And After my silence she began to approach. We slowly got together again but this time I was more flirty and cocky with her. She was quite present everyday in my life and in a chat she told me that she find me phisically interesant and also going to swimming pool stared my whole body and made a smile ... I was feeling great saying YES SHE LIKES ME... Then we went out and I decided to say to her that We can try to go out and see what can happen....Then she sent me again to the friend zone and we talked again... In that moment I decided to quit and try to kiss her and I was rejected again. Now is over, she does not want me as friend and I also told her that I cannot see her different though losing her as a friend is more painful, but I was clear that I really need to delete all my love for her, there is no other solution. Honestly I really got tired of being in yo-yo in a way... Is useless to keep a friendship when are strong feelings underneath. Sometimes is better to take a decision that might be painful but the eternal platonic love. I do not want it in my life. Why human beings like this? Why
carhill Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 You took the risk and were rejected. Good on ya for being honest. A year is a long time. Hope you had a "closure" talk with her. Now go NC and find someone who wants to be with you. BTW, was she "your friend" too? Did she take an interest in your life, ambitions, issues, etc.? If not, then she was just playing on your emotions. Be watchful for that in the future. A real friend cares about you.
Author tigre Posted March 1, 2008 Author Posted March 1, 2008 She and me match intelectually and in life styles and in the sense of living in a really nice way.... so I dont know why she never take the risk... She has a group of male friends that in a way or another are in love with her and she was not taken seriously by three guys she liked... I dont know she has not have a boy friend since 18 ( now shes 24) .... And for myself I was married when I met her and anyway she decided to go deep in a friendship with me and started to talk about connections with me and bla bla bla. I dont know...
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Why do people do it? Because they like the attention and like being able to have the benefits of a boyfriend or girlfriend without having to have an actual relationship to get it.
LosingMyDreamGirl Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 My ex-wife wants to be friends. I told her I will not be her friend. I do not want to be her friend and will never treat her like a friend for these very reasons..... I still love her. I think it is good you ended a 'friendship' because of this. No need in torturing yourself.
carhill Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 For some, such is an essential ego boost, kinda like being "popular". Since the OP was married when they met, he was "safe" and perhaps just a bit naughty. Once he became "available", interest waned.
whichwayisup Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 And for myself I was married when I met her and anyway she decided to go deep in a friendship with me and started to talk about connections with me and bla bla bla. I dont know... Yeah but you let her. You being married, allowing feelings to develop was inappropriate. Does your wife know how you felt about this girl?
Author tigre Posted March 2, 2008 Author Posted March 2, 2008 Yes my ex wife took contact with her and until the last moment I think that also was a burden in her head... but she was with all the time as a friend... I tried to see that also, but my feelings were stronger...
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