Donphi Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Im in love with this girl and she is in love with me. She is Germany and Im currently in the US. I won't see her until summer time (5 months from now) Due to circumstances with work and school So its basically a looong distance relationship It drives us crazy that we are apart and can't see one another With this distance between us and wanting to see one another, it causes us to sometimes feel a bit of a heartache. At one point we broke up because it was really hard. At that point she felt so much pain and so did i and we got back together. It hasnt been the same since. She got extremely sad and the whole thing about being scared of love came back to her when we were apart and she proposed that we should slow down. With this whole lets slow down process, seems her response to talk to me has slowed and emails take longer for response. Sometimes she breaks down to tell me she misses me like crazy and that she loves me to death. But the latency of her wanting to contact me is making me wonder. She loves me to death but why is she acting like this and what should i be doing?
Space Marine Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Sounds like she just needs space. Yeah, there are many definitions for that, but no one ever said understanding women was easy.
maryjane1 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 She may be interested in another guy. Or other guys in general.
Green Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 a few questions (1) how did you meet (2) have you ever had sex with this girl and if not what have you done physicaly speaking (3) When was the last time you saw her in person, and whats the long term plan... will she move to the US or you to Germany? (4) what does she look like as far as body type and skin and ethnicity
lulu123 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 You don't say how old you both are but I assume you are early 20s? How long have you been together? I know how tough long distance relationships can be. I was also involved with someone who lived in another country and I eventually moved there to be with him. (The relationship didn't last but I didn't regret giving it a try.) It is very, very, difficult to maintain this kind of relationship. What are the chances of the two of you ever living in the same city? If neither of you are willing to move eventually to be with the other, then there really isn't much point in pursuing this relationship. How many days have you actually spent in each other's company? If you have only ever spent a few days or couple weeks together here and there, it's pretty hard to get to know the person for who they really are because you're both so excited to finally be together that you put your regular self and life on hold. So I guess what I'm saying is, you might consider letting this one go, unless she plans to be in the U.S. or you plan to be in Germany for an extended period of time. That doesn't exactly answer your question and it's probably not what you want to hear. But good luck. Lulu123 from http://www.what-women-want-from-men.com
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