giarc565 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 :confused:Hello Some Basic Background as it pertains to my problem first I am a 46 yr old man with a 44 yr old wife I have taken care of my parents who have dementia for about two and a half yrs now about a year and a half ago we made a decision to that for our sons benifit wife would for the year and a half left for his high school move with him 45 mins away share codo with our daughter and her boy friend this was done to save the almost 4 hours comute to school as we wanted our son to graduate from hs with his friends as he was doing very well in school and I would continue with care of my parents, she was to make weekly trips back and forth well this was the practical for many reasons but ------- many problems followed such as she received some large amount of monies from a law suit and hid it from me she then bought a trip to disney land without me she sold our car that was needed to a co- woker and bought another much lessor car without letting me know she also came down with ulsers and was off work also she began saying things that were unfouded and started lyeing to me about petty things and starte saying that i had controlled her and had done nothing for her in our relationship now this caused me to reserch personality disorders and after doing so one seemed to match her actions fairly close one day she loved me and the next she blamed me for every problem and would say she was done so i finaly got her to take a assement on line and it gave several flags and sugested to get a professinal diagnosis as it had narcistic and borderline as areas of concearn so she did go and after one visit told me she had been diagnosed with bi-polar and that they had put her on meds nowshe has been on multiple meds and has said she does not want to be married and one day she talks as if all was normal then wants dinner togeather then she flip flops and starts making me into the devel now she has never sown any thing like manic discriptions and what I have read its not a easy diagnoisis and many facters must be cheacked family interviews nessasary to determen manic episodes this has gone from bad to worse since her diagnosis and I love her and dont know what to do and i atempted to communicate with her counceller and was told I have no legal rights to get case info about her so what can Be done she is refusing my suggestions of getting a second diagnosis and I m very woried for her and our marraige please any one have insight to share on this
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