Fishcake108 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 If anyone could give their honest opinions and advice i would appreciate that. Sitution: I have been with my girlfriend for a year. sex has been fantastic, she hot as and knows all the moves. couldnt be happier with her. its also been frequent 4-5 times a week, sometimes twice a day. We are in love and enjoy each others company. Problem: My girlfriend is less excited these days. When i make a move on her, i pretty much get rejected all the time. Its a bit heart hitting and depressing being rejected so much. We only do it when she wants it, and usually im not 100% in the mood so its not as passionate. This is because i am so used to not doing it that when she wants to i feel like i had given up and the cycle would just start again next time. We do it 1-2 times a week, but my problem is that its fallen a bit shy of what i like - which brings me on to my next topic, masturbation. Im a beliver that masturabation is good for you and there is no limit to what is normal and what is not. Helps me get to sleep and doesnt get in anyones way. It only becomes 'unnormal'/unhealthy if it starts affecting your life e.g. work, study, social time. My girlfriend feels the opposite on this. She hates it when i do it. She feels like im being dishonest with her, and tells me 'at least you could do it with a girl' 'you have no control'. She worries i will want to start sleeping with other girls; which is someting i dont consider. I do it because i havnt seen her for a while, or wont see her for a while and miss her and her intimicy. or i do it because i know she wont want to be sexual when she sees me, that way i dont have to get honry because shes soo attractive and dont have to get upset form being rejected, and i can enjoy our time toghether I woudlnt care if she did it when she was alone away from me. i know this may sound piggish.. but hear me out. When she does reject me because she doesnt want to have intercourse because she doesnt feel like it that fine. but sometimes i feel like it would be nice of her to give a blow/hand job, or give a sexy pose for me. I would do things to pleasure her whilst she got off if i didnt feel like being completly intimite. how hard could it be? girls with partners, what do you think when your man gets off when your not there? does he get of or does he not? do you think its cheating, are you ok with it? If your not up for it, do you help him out or forbid he go any further? do you think i have a problem if i enjoy sex in my private time? guys what do you think? can you contorl yourself, do you like to get off regularly? am i not normal? Do you get blueballs and disapointment feeligns when your girl rejects you? would you expect your parnter to get you off even if they werent that up for it intercourse - do you think its far out of their way, or would you never expect them to do it? i hope i dont sound like a pig, i really am a nice/appropiate guy this the only girl i have been with, and i want to be with her for a long long time. im young and want to enjoy myself ! (im 21) and i guess i got used to the regular 5 times a week and am feeling bummed in this time of less regular.
sweet666 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 when a girl doent want to have a sex means something is in her mind ,could be a guy or could be some kind of family or work problem,I think you should talk to her about it
Jilly Bean Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 There's a lot of things going on here. 1 - have you talked to her about why your previously enjoyable sex life has waned so much? Thats what you really need to do. 2 - reasons a woman suddenly stops having sex: - she is sleeping with someone else - she has fallen out of love with you - she is clinically depressed or battling another mental disorder - she is harboring some major deep resentment towards you, and it is manifesting in your sex life (as women, out emotions are tied to the physical, you know...) 3 - masturbation. I think you have the RIGHT attitude. There is nothing wrong with it and your gf has some very odd thoughts on it. But the bottom line is that you need to talk to her about why she doesnt want to have sex anymore.
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