brokenthinker Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Welp, latest development.... found out the stbxw is Preggerz! Only took 6 mos to have this 21yr old punks baby. Oh well she's completely happy... hope she enjoys the next 20years of her life. I'm moving on, I've been turning down plenty of women, time to look outside of this box for once! I dont consider it Karmic justice because her and her boyfriend seem completely happy with it! Well 3 more months and I'll be divorced and put this SH*T behind me!
OWoman Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I dont consider it Karmic justice because her and her boyfriend seem completely happy with it! They're happy. Let it go so that you can stand a chance of being happy too.
BetrayedMM Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Wow! That had to have felt like a hammer blow! Hang in there. Don't worry about them, it's their problem, not yours. Are they happy? Don't be so sure, but it really doesn't matter. What matters is how you feel. But, they may be more stuck than happy, who can tell. Doesn't matter either way, does it? If you feel this has set you free, good, go and be free! It's time for YOU now!
mopar crazy Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I'm sorry, that sucks! Do you have any children w/ your stbxw? Hope you can find happiness yourself soon.
Author brokenthinker Posted March 1, 2008 Author Posted March 1, 2008 yup it truly is time for me to be me! I think it has set me free, because something clicked in my mind finally. I really think of my wife as a whore now. and they really do deserve each other. And quite frankly I've had way more attractive women coming on to me lately and that coupled with the anti-depressants I've been on has helped me be able to renew my self esteem. Everything is going to be just fine!! :-) I deserve better than her trash!
Darth Vader Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Welp, latest development.... found out the stbxw is Preggerz! Only took 6 mos to have this 21yr old punks baby. Oh well she's completely happy... hope she enjoys the next 20years of her life. I'm moving on, I've been turning down plenty of women, time to look outside of this box for once! I dont consider it Karmic justice because her and her boyfriend seem completely happy with it! Well 3 more months and I'll be divorced and put this SH*T behind me! Have you talked to your Lawyer about this, make sure that your STBXW doesn't try to pin this baby on you! Because the courts are Bias against men, many courts say any baby conceived in a marriage is assumed to be the husbands! Get paternity testing done to prove the baby's not yours! Vader out!
TMCM Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 What you perceived as their reality is totally skewed by your emotions. You are not there to see all their interactions so what makes you think they are happy at all? Most 21 year old males do not want to be saddled with a kid that they are going to have to support for almost the amount of time they've been alive. And if he is, then your STBXW will be in for a very rude awakening in the near future. Besides, with her marital skills, the odds are good that she'll go from one failed relationship to another. So forgive me if my assessment regarding their happiness, is completely opposite of yours.
abeliever Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 I am so sorry to hear that. I really feel for you! I too experienced this only I wasn't the one who got pregnant. OW is and is not sure it's his! It hurts though! OUCH! Still hurts my heart. I just received my uncontested divorce and looking for a new place to live. Ready to move on. It sounds like you are ready to move on too. I haven't ventured to date or anything like that. But I am ready to get on and just be happy whatever that is. This is too hard?!! But just think one day you will look back and laugh not now but one day. Good luck! abeliever
NoIDidn't Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 What you perceived as their reality is totally skewed by your emotions. You are not there to see all their interactions so what makes you think they are happy at all? Most 21 year old males do not want to be saddled with a kid that they are going to have to support for almost the amount of time they've been alive. And if he is, then your STBXW will be in for a very rude awakening in the near future. Besides, with her marital skills, the odds are good that she'll go from one failed relationship to another. So forgive me if my assessment regarding their happiness, is completely opposite of yours. You said what I was thinking. When I read that the OM was 21, I was like 'he ain't happy, he's scared sh**less'. It was probably more fun to sleep with a MW than to impregnate her and see her wanting to keep it. No happiness there. And only more woe to come when he's not the doting fatherly type. Most under 25 males aren't anyway.
jenniferc1114 Posted March 4, 2008 Posted March 4, 2008 Brokenthinker, I'm not sure where you're located, but here in Ohio you are considerred the legal father of this child. It does not matter if you were legally separted for 5 years, if you're married while conceived, that is how the courts handle it. They do not bastardsized the child. The day the child is born go to child support & put a request for a paternity test. Protect yourself.
Author brokenthinker Posted March 4, 2008 Author Posted March 4, 2008 (edited) Well I am in Cali, and will be filing in texas April 12th when she has legal residence, and its a shorter cooling off period than Cali... 2 mos! God my wife is such a bitch! Her mother and I are very close friends and talk regularly... and I recently showed her mother some VERY raunchy photos she posted on myspace to her mother... now she is going to file a restraining order to try and keep me from talking to her mother... I guess I embarrassed her. But you know what, if she is so ashamed that her mother saw her slutty photos maybe she shouldnt have taken them, let alone post them on the internet! On top of that she threw in "I thought you were honestly changing but now I know you arent and that you never loved me and that your just obsessed with me." to which my response was. "your right sweetheart, i never loved you. In fact I think you are the ugliest woman alive and I must have been hit in the head with a brick before I married someone as fugly as you. Lets hurry and get this divorce over with." GOD WHAT A BITCH.. I CAN'T STAND WHAT SHE HAS BECOME! Edited March 4, 2008 by brokenthinker
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