dymo Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Hi everone im a mm and been in an affair for 18months but it has gone on for a lot longer on and off .Tonite it is all over even though i love and adore my lover ,girlfriend even as far to say soul mate,the situation could go on no longer i felt that due to my fears of leaving the place were i am now all i was causing was heart ache to my angel to which i refer to her even now i have doubts if i have done the right thing but i know she reads this site and would like to wish her every happiness im sorry it didnt work out because of me and hope the pain goes away i leave my love with everone and thank you
Unforgetable77 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Extremely angry at the moment! I've been sat here ages trying to find the words that descibe how i feel but nothing comes close One thing ...... No good wondering if you have done the right thing.... Its done!! I'll quote you........ ''I don't do backwards''
Lyssa Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I hope you don't mind my asking you this, if she is your soul mate, lover and well, girlfriend as you put it - wouldn't you want to be with her? Don't you love her enough to want to go over your fears - whatever that may be?
Unforgetable77 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I hope you don't mind my asking you this, if she is your soul mate, lover and well, girlfriend as you put it - wouldn't you want to be with her? Don't you love her enough to want to go over your fears - whatever that may be? Lyssa...I'm sort of glad you asked this as this is one of the things that im asking myself at the moment....he professes his love but can't come up with the goods, then wonders why i'm slightly confused as to what he really feels I would move heaven and earth, I would do everything in my power to prevent and protect the people whom I love..... Isnt that how its supposed to be???
Lyssa Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I asked cause I really want to know. Well yeah, you would do everything in your power and so would I and I'm sure a few other people but clearly, Dymo isn't one of the few.
nadiaj2727 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Lyssa...I'm sort of glad you asked this as this is one of the things that im asking myself at the moment....he professes his love but can't come up with the goods, then wonders why i'm slightly confused as to what he really feels I would move heaven and earth, I would do everything in my power to prevent and protect the people whom I love..... Isnt that how its supposed to be??? Yes, unforgettable, it is how it's supposed to be. If you really love someone, you back up those feelings/ words with ACTIONS and do what it takes to be with them. It seems as if you are doing this but your MM is not. I am really sorry to hear that. I really feel for you. I think all you can do is tell yourself no matter how much you love him and no matter how much he professes his love for you, you deserve better. Sorry Dymo but she does. She will go out and find it. Best wishes unforgettable, I am so sorry this is happening to you.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Hi everone im a mm and been in an affair for 18months but it has gone on for a lot longer on and off .Tonite it is all over even though i love and adore my lover ,girlfriend even as far to say soul mate,the situation could go on no longer i felt that due to my fears of leaving the place were i am now all i was causing was heart ache to my angel to which i refer to her even now i have doubts if i have done the right thing but i know she reads this site and would like to wish her every happiness im sorry it didnt work out because of me and hope the pain goes away i leave my love with everone and thank you You are shallow and selfish. (Sorry, but that is how I feel). If you love something enough, you would leave your situation and be with the one you love because it makes you happy. The children want to see their parents happy, even if it's not together. What is the right thing?
InvisibleGirl Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 You are shallow and selfish. (Sorry, but that is how I feel). If you love something enough, you would leave your situation and be with the one you love because it makes you happy. The children want to see their parents happy, even if it's not together. What is the right thing? I agree and I think you're a coward too as is the MM that is in love with me ... Don't keep taking and taking from someone and letting them love you and loving them back when you arent going to do anything about it because you're scared.
Mino Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Hi everone im a mm and been in an affair for 18months but it has gone on for a lot longer on and off .Tonite it is all over even though i love and adore my lover ,girlfriend even as far to say soul mate,the situation could go on no longer i felt that due to my fears of leaving the place were i am now all i was causing was heart ache to my angel to which i refer to her even now i have doubts if i have done the right thing but i know she reads this site and would like to wish her every happiness im sorry it didnt work out because of me and hope the pain goes away i leave my love with everone and thank you Dymo is a cake eater, so he had not guts to be honest with his wife. He let you go. Keep going, he is judt pretenting that he is hurt, cause he is scared wify will find out
InvisibleGirl Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Dymo is a cake eater, so he had not guts to be honest with his wife. He let you go. Keep going, he is judt pretenting that he is hurt, cause he is scared wify will find out I'm not sure I think he is pretending to be hurt, he just isnt man enough to come clean at home and either fix things there or leave. One of those two things should have been done 18 months ago.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Dymo, this is a place that your OW comes for support. It indicates to me your selfishness by sending personal messages of love across a forum - this isn't for you to come and say sorry - it's for OW, many who have been hurt, strung along or betrayed by a MM. If you truly love her and cannot let her go - leave and make a life with her. If you cannot leave your present situation, leave your OW to pick up her life again without you. I dont see how presenting on a forum used for support will help you her in anyway.
Mino Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I am coming to ther conclusion that all mm are just weak, Weak and cowards, they have no balls to leave yet they proclaim to love the ow. I am in the same boat, mmy mm came by today, he is " working on himself' I ask him to leave. He of coarse is upset now. Bottom line, they had plenty of time to "come clean" and do the right thing, which is either to leave, or go back to marriage. He has no balls to do either. they are just cowards, I will not particate in this crazy madness. I am tired of seeing tears!! They are starting to look fake to me, When he says he loves me, it is starting to sound fake also. Its all fake, it there game. Just tired of weak a** men who hasve no bslls, COWARDS thats what they are. If it were all true like they say it is, then they would have done something about it, not stay in status que. Not fair to the wife nor OW
Unforgetable77 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 evening all! Thank you all for taking time to post, all of you have basically said the same thing, This is why i keep asking myself why does he do this and I keep getting the same answer.......He doesn't love me enough even though he says this is not the case Anyway i've been out all day doing nothing, Ive avoided everything which reminds me of him(tried anyway) there have been a few texts back and forth but nothing exciting still can't put into words how I feel........ I know I have to turn all these negative emotions into something positive but i just don't know where to start I know what you all think of him and this is a public forum you are free to say as you like but at the end of the day I love this man with all my heart and i can't say anything bad about him even though somewhere along the lines I totally agree U77x
Mino Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Hi everone im a mm and been in an affair for 18months but it has gone on for a lot longer on and off .Tonite it is all over even though i love and adore my lover ,girlfriend even as far to say soul mate,the situation could go on no longer i felt that due to my fears of leaving the place were i am now all i was causing was heart ache to my angel to which i refer to her even now i have doubts if i have done the right thing but i know she reads this site and would like to wish her every happiness im sorry it didnt work out because of me and hope the pain goes away i leave my love with everone and thank you I hear this so often, its a HOOK, " i dont know if zi did the right think, press out a few tears. Its a way to lure in OW . The poor me game. Mine also calls me his soulmate, his angel. ITS a game, Reel you back in, so he csan continue haviing his cake. Let me guess "he is working on himself, and he is leaving "sson" RGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BS,
Unforgetable77 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 I hear this so often, its a HOOK, " i dont know if zi did the right think, press out a few tears. Its a way to lure in OW . The poor me game. Mine also calls me his soulmate, his angel. ITS a game, Reel you back in, so he csan continue haviing his cake. Let me guess "he is working on himself, and he is leaving "sson" RGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BS, Mino sorry no offence meant but this made me laugh :lmao: I agree to the point where I've heard the same lines over and over again but theres no more reeling me in i'm done with that, Its all or nothing now
LILA BELL Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Well if she really is "your soulmate" and you love her, you would be with her. Obviously all the crap he's feeding you is bullsh*t. If you continue to believe his lies,he will continue to feed you them. Ok lets see im in love with OW she's my soulmate,she loves me we can start a life together.....hmm let me think ....oh no thanks i'd rather not start a life with you,im just fine and dandy where i'm at. Wake up don't believe his sh*t,stop allowing him to have his cake and eat it to. Obviously your not worth him losing or giving up what he has now. Find someone who is free to be with you.
Unforgetable77 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Well if she really is "your soulmate" and you love her, you would be with her. Obviously all the crap he's feeding you is bullsh*t. If you continue to believe his lies,he will continue to feed you them. Ok lets see im in love with OW she's my soulmate,she loves me we can start a life together.....hmm let me think ....oh no thanks i'd rather not start a life with you,im just fine and dandy where i'm at. Wake up don't believe his sh*t,stop allowing him to have his cake and eat it to. Obviously your not worth him losing or giving up what he has now. Find someone who is free to be with you. Hi all I was kinda hoping dymo would have signed in to defend himself but he hasn't and I am not in any position to do it for him! I can tell you all that there is alot more to this than you are reading I will try to give a bit more info without letting it all out for personal reasons.. This A has being going on off and on since 1993 almost 15 years, everytime it has ended It was me that walked away even though I have loved him all those years I could never see a future with him and realised the heartache it would cause....... until of course 18 months ago when the selfish side come out in meand i thought F... this If I want it go get it so I did, I knew what I was heading into but I definatly did not imagine It would be as heart wrenching as this, It truly has drained my soul all the empty, broken promises ripped my heart into tiny little pieces I feel I have no fight in me anymore what happens next?? I don't know..... It doesn't feel so bad today my head has moved on but my heart is pulling in the opposite direction I just hope that all this pain will soon go away cause I don't know how much more I can take:mad:
Unforgetable77 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 I guess I have thread jacked Please accept my apologies!!
Lyssa Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 U77, I'm really sorry for what you're going through. It will go away - the pain but it will take time. I don't think Dymo will come back to defend himself, he probably just wanted you to know what he had to say which wasn't much. Hang in there. We are all here to help you go through this tough time. [[[[u77]]]]
Unforgetable77 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Lyssa, Thankyou for your kind words.... I was awake til all hours thinking and I've made alot of big desisions that I know will aid my recovery though at this present time I'd rather not say what they are U77x
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