MerlinaAddms Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 My ex and I broke up because we didnt connect on a mental level but there's a strong physical attraction between us so we keep having sex. I met another guy who seems genuinely interested in me but he seems like he wouldnt have sex before marriage. And honestly I dont know if I really want an emotional relationship right now. So last night I had sex with my ex and went on a date with that other guy. Is that slutty? And should I tell my ex about this guy? Who should I choose?
AriaIncognito Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Exes are exes for a reason. Break that off. If the 2nd guy doesn't want what you want (i.e. sex before marriage) then maybe find someone else to date who wants what you want.
Krytie TV Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Why do I get the feeling your judgment on his sex before marriage is merely an assumption? You say he seems like he wouldnt have sex before marriage. Well... have you asked him? Are you just looking for a stiffy on legs? If so, don't bother messing with this new guy's life if he wants an emotional relationship.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 If you have any dignity left, you would stop sleeping with your ex, and stringing the new guy along. I think basically what you're looking for is a rebound, no attachments involved, just lots of sex. I think they have a 1800 number for that. Sorry for the bluntness, but you need to get yourself straight, your ex has no respect for you since now all he has gotten all he needed, sex with no attachments. And should the new guy find out, I'm sure he'll most like call you a skank, and make your self esteem take a nose dive. Your transitioning time now, is to just give yourself time to heal.
Lizzie60 Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 My ex and I broke up because we didnt connect on a mental level but there's a strong physical attraction between us so we keep having sex. I met another guy who seems genuinely interested in me but he seems like he wouldnt have sex before marriage. And honestly I dont know if I really want an emotional relationship right now. So last night I had sex with my ex and went on a date with that other guy. Is that slutty? And should I tell my ex about this guy? Who should I choose? Slutty???? not at all... you're single.. and free.. go for it... you can have sex with your ex without the emotional involvement.. then why not.. this new guy will probably have sex if you let him know that you'd like it.. Should you tell them? Not at all.. none of their business.. who knows maybe they are having sex with other girls... Happens to me all the time.. yesterday I had 2 in the same afternoon.. they almost crossed at the door.. one was out .. then the other came in within one hour.. Do I tell them.. no way... it's MY life..
Author MerlinaAddms Posted February 29, 2008 Author Posted February 29, 2008 Hey...thanks for your post, everyone else's were very negative. I feel as if they blame it all on me and not my ex for still having sex with him. I mean he's doing it too.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Hey...thanks for your post, everyone else's were very negative. I feel as if they blame it all on me and not my ex for still having sex with him. I mean he's doing it too. I'm only negative because I don't really approve of the fact that ppl sleep with their ex. But I can't control your life. You just have to follow your own advice on this then because it does mean that in the long haul of it all, you might fall into the trap that you've unwilling set up for yourself. Maybe you might not realize it now, but later on you might see that sleeping around won't bring you any sort of comfort.
EYECANDY000 Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 Since you didnt do anything intimate with the new guy so its not being promiscuous. Theres nothing wrong with what you did. Now if you were double dipping then that would be disgusting, but you didnt.
carhill Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 OP, how do you feel after having relations with your X and then going on a date with someone else? What's really going on here? Rationalization and compartmentalization come to mind. Can you honestly say you're emotionally disconnected from your ex and that relations with him are just a physical act like masturbation? More power to you to do whatever gives you pleasure but just make sure everyone is on the same page and you're not leading anyone to false conclusions. That's the tricky part
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