xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 A brief history of my last relationship: My ex, named "E" was two years my senior. He was very emotional for a guy, rather on the clingy side, and very feministic in my opinion: he has cried a total of 4 times during our shortlived R and had huge self esteem issues ranging from hair loss, weight gain, etc. It's still a mystery to me why I was attracted to him in the first place, he dropped out of high school, was and still is jobless, and he acts more like a 12 year old then a 20 year old. His only quality was that he was emphatic to my emotions and feelings, otherwise, he took more in the relationship then he could've ever have given. By the end of our one month mark I was emotionally and physically drained. No matter how much and many times I've voiced my opinions that I wanted him to do something with his life, his response had been " I want to, but it's not my fault that I can't find a job." I was one of those gullible woman who believed that with time and patience, the guy would change because of us. I was never more wrong. Like I've mentioned, he didn't have a job, so he sponged off his mom, stepdad AND sister; he had hardly a penny to his name. He had a habit of smoking newports so he was constantly short on money for a pack. Guess who picked up the tab? My wallet was drained dry after that, I was constantly trying to please him with little tidbits here and there: buying his favorite candies, his smokes, his alcohol; he was hardly shy in asking me for 5 bucks. I can't believe the resentment I have for him as much as I do now, I gave him everything I have, my love and heart, and most of all, my virginity. But I knew I made the right choice when I broke up with him. I have hardly looked back. But more often then not, he calls me ( in which I refuse to answer), ims me, and messages me that he still loves me and wants me back. As if I have time to be his mother or babysitter. I can't handle someone as immature as him. I've deleted him from my life, and I hope he does the same about me.
Cool Chick Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 I would definitely run far and fast from this one. Of course he loves you, you gave and he took....who wouldn't love someone who supported you while you bummed around the house? Sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, but men like this are leaches. I spent a total of two days with one of these kinds of guys and that was all I could handle. You're doing the right thing....hold you head up high and keep on walking. Wouldn't it be nice to have a guy in you life who could afford to buy you a dozen roses? Cool Chick
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Author Posted February 29, 2008 Oh absolutely. That's why its bee almost 2 months of NC. He was just so annoying up till this point with his begging and whining about why I don't talk to him and wanting me back, I finally decided to cut all ties COMPLETELY. He still has my number but I've deleted his way back when, and I've blocked him from my AIM as well as deleted him from my myspace. For a second there, he was being stalkerish. But I'm relieved he never really been over to my apartment so he doesn't know where I live. Moving on.
ninjaturtles Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Lol..I know how you feel....I was briefly involved with someone like your EX. This was about 1 1/2 years ago..Not my most recent ex. He wasnt as bad as yours, but my goodness..I regret it all. When I think about my involvment with him, I feel like throwing up. I totally REGRET it..ughhh...However, dont beat yourself over it too much! Live and learn hun, Its not your fault he was such a baby!!! This guy I was involved with briefly was very annoying as well. As opposed to being clingy, he was very controlling. I still cant believe I got involved with him..ughh.... The only time he did anything for me was when he paid for my Mcdonalds!!Lol. A few mins after that, we went to a store and he asked me to buy him ice cream.lol. Money for me wasnt the problem, I love sharing and I am very giving. However, the fact that he was soo straightfoward and the fact that he never gave but expected was disgusting. I remember on my birthday, I had promised to take him out to eat. On MY birthday (just because I love to give). I went over to his, only to find out that he wanted me to pay for his two friends. He then started saying stuff like..'Why cant you keep to your promise'? I was so shocked.lol. This was someone harrasing me to pay for his friends on MY birthday. Anyway, I told him I never invited his friends.lol. I wasnt paying for them. Well, four of us (His 2 friends, himself and myself) went to TGI'S. The bill came up to like 100 box and I was going to pay...he then brought out 20 or 10 box and HIS FRIEND paid the rest for all us.lol! I remember when I refused to go a certain length with him (intimately) and he was angry!!! I was shocked...How could someone be so disgustingly blatant..that was ALL he was concerned about. All this happened within 2 weeks...because we were not in the same city...I went over to his city and I saw his true colours. I kicked his broke stingy inconsiderate ass to the curb. Ah, he did so many wrong things. I remember when I was staying over at his and he went to work from 9am to 5pm. Instead of coming home to stay with me. (I was so bored in all alone in his house) he went clubbing!! Came home 5am....I dont want to go on but in summary.. he was Immature Ungrateful Selfish Broke Self centered. My final words..do not despair..I know how you feel. I ended things as well with him! I cut off contact and ignored him. Stay strong!! These things happen you can only learn from them.xxx
GlamourBabe Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Oh my god, ninja your ex and my ex sound like brothers.The bit that cracked me up the most was this... I kicked his broke stingy inconsiderate ass to the curb... oh that made me laugh so hard...priceless.. x
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Author Posted February 29, 2008 Lol..I know how you feel....I was briefly involved with someone like your EX. This was about 1 1/2 years ago..Not my most recent ex. He wasnt as bad as yours, but my goodness..I regret it all. When I think about my involvment with him, I feel like throwing up. I totally REGRET it..ughhh...However, dont beat yourself over it too much! Live and learn hun, Its not your fault he was such a baby!!! This guy I was involved with briefly was very annoying as well. As opposed to being clingy, he was very controlling. I still cant believe I got involved with him..ughh.... The only time he did anything for me was when he paid for my Mcdonalds!!Lol. A few mins after that, we went to a store and he asked me to buy him ice cream.lol. Money for me wasnt the problem, I love sharing and I am very giving. However, the fact that he was soo straightfoward and the fact that he never gave but expected was disgusting. I remember on my birthday, I had promised to take him out to eat. On MY birthday (just because I love to give). I went over to his, only to find out that he wanted me to pay for his two friends. He then started saying stuff like..'Why cant you keep to your promise'? I was so shocked.lol. This was someone harrasing me to pay for his friends on MY birthday. Anyway, I told him I never invited his friends.lol. I wasnt paying for them. Well, four of us (His 2 friends, himself and myself) went to TGI'S. The bill came up to like 100 box and I was going to pay...he then brought out 20 or 10 box and HIS FRIEND paid the rest for all us.lol! I remember when I refused to go a certain length with him (intimately) and he was angry!!! I was shocked...How could someone be so disgustingly blatant..that was ALL he was concerned about. All this happened within 2 weeks...because we were not in the same city...I went over to his city and I saw his true colours. I kicked his broke stingy inconsiderate ass to the curb. Ah, he did so many wrong things. I remember when I was staying over at his and he went to work from 9am to 5pm. Instead of coming home to stay with me. (I was so bored in all alone in his house) he went clubbing!! Came home 5am....I dont want to go on but in summary.. he was Immature Ungrateful Selfish Broke Self centered. My final words..do not despair..I know how you feel. I ended things as well with him! I cut off contact and ignored him. Stay strong!! These things happen you can only learn from them.xxx I shall take your advice to heart. I'm sorry that your ex was like that, but I guess that we were partially at fault that we fell for them in the first place. Actually I don't feel any remorse that I chose to break it off in the first place, I just couldn't put up with his babyish antics. He made promises he couldn't keep, constantly used his family as an excuse for his unhappiness, and even had the decency to complain that he didn't get an Xbox 360 for Christmas!!! He makes me want to puke. Regarding your McDonald's incident, I have no issues either on being generous with money, but I hate that he could even bring himself to extend his hands out to me like I'm an ATM machine. But what angered me even more, was that he didn't even choose to obtain a mean of trying to see me, and it was always I who had to travel to see him once a week. We live in NYC, and we live about two hours from each other, with the main transportation being the subway. HE made it so much a point that he didn't even $2 to himself to bring himself to see me that, he placed the blame entirely on me and would question my feelings for him when I don't make plans with him every weekend. AS IF I would stoop so low as to continue to be his doormat.
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