AvgJoeDoe Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Sounds like everyone is having almost the same issues with breakups and stuff. Well let me start explaining my case I was in a great relationship for almost 4 years now, unfortunately i called a break because i was seeing the relationship going downhill for work,school,personal was too much stress for her. During that time she said she didnt knew what she felt for me anymore so that was one of the reasons for the time off. We had issues like any other couples. During that break i had to leave the area for work related issues. We talked over the phone a bit, but she never mentioned that she wanted to get back together so i figured she needed more time, well xmass i called her and she was very polite and asked me to get some coffee. At that time i couldnt go because i was about to leave back to the area i was working since i had to drive about 9 hrs. Well i ended up staying but called her next morning to get some coffee with her, she didnt answer i left a message and she ended up calling me about 4 hours later which i was already 2 hours into my drive. I couldnt turn around anymore since i was to get to my work area in the morning. and explained to her. anyways time passed and about jan i get a call from her that we should moved on but nothing of getting back together. I agreed with her , but all this time i really missed her so much. I tried various times to meet with her but she keeps avoiding me until we met and she seem like another person. She wouldnt really greet me or anything. we talked but she didnt budged in and well i ended up leaving and heartbroken again. She told me that i took too long to fix things because supposely in xmass she was trying to get back with me.Since that time we met we been only 3 months away from each other and she gives me this talk that the feeling is not there anymore and that she went out with someone else and didnt work out cause she was too busy, i didnt believe the last but i cannot be certain either. So now i try to approach her like a friend and she wont answer text msgs. Emails been working ok but i guess is a start to get her back. She consistently tells me on the emails to move on and that i can consider her as a friend. Any advice from someone who had a similar experience. (flowers, cards, video didnt worked) i think i took a very agressive start on her, But well im considering of giving her more time and focus on myself.(fitness,personal improvement) then im going to try to approach her slowly again. Whatcha guys think of this?
Author AvgJoeDoe Posted March 6, 2008 Author Posted March 6, 2008 bumping it for any thoughts or ideas Update : been nc for 2 weeks and thinking about texting her or calling her on the friendship side of it. But a friend of mine advised me on nc until she calls me back.
Author AvgJoeDoe Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 update. today i decided to go over and talk to her for one last time after 2 weeks of NC. we talked for about 35 mins. I basically told her to give me an opportunity to get her heart back. She told me that she was in a relationship (3 weeks)and she was happy. I asked her to consider my offer, which was for her to give me 2 weeks to win her heart, she said that she knows the answer which was no, cause she wasnt going to dump the other guy and that what excuse she was going to give him"i need some time cause of this selfish guy" anyways i told her please consider my offer for the love she once had for me and she said that she was going to. Now i think im more confused but still im not giving up that easy. as i told her once before "Im not going to give up our love that easy" well that was when we were on the peak of the relationship. Anyhow i think that if you love someone from your heart you should go after no matter what the odds are, maybe persistance pays off but maybe it wont:confused:
malaclypse Posted March 11, 2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Just leave the girl alone. She told you she doesn't want to be with you more than once.
Author AvgJoeDoe Posted March 11, 2008 Author Posted March 11, 2008 yes im moving on as well i think part of our hearts believe in chances but i think i should be more realistic. The ironi of love ...
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