Nikinix Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I met this guy a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. He asked me out the next day and we ended up going out a few more times and had a lot of fun. He seemed very mature, upfront and honest which is refreshing. He has his own company and told me he was going to be really busy with work over the next couple of weeks. Our last date he had to cancel as he was stuck at work and he told me he would call me later that week to reschedule. I didn't hear from him and ended up sending him a text. He responded with a text saying that he's really busy with work and that he'll call me next week. That was a week ago and still nothing. So it's now been 2 weeks since we've actually spoken. He did tell me ahead of time that he was going to be busy with work. And if he weren't interested wouldn't he have said so, or just not responded to my text rather than telling me he'd call me this week? What should I do now? Should I call him or wait? It's cool if he's not interested, but I'd just like to know. Advice? Thoughts?
AllInOne Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I am sorry but this doesn't sound good. For many different reasons people are very hesitant to say directly "I am not interested". Instead they choose to just not return phone calls or emails. I think if he was interested in seeing you again he would have called or texted by now. I know you would like to hear one way or the other from him, but if he doesn't get back to you I would just make that equal to him actually telling you he is not interested. I have started doing that with women that don't call/email me back it has made things alot simpler for me. Good Luck.
Author Nikinix Posted February 28, 2008 Author Posted February 28, 2008 I had a good feeling about this guy and I want to believe that he really is tied up with work, but I think you are right. I need to learn to just let go without the closure. For any guys reading this.... it is much better to just let her know that you just don't feel it. Women overthink and its better to know right away then wait and hope for a call for 3 weeks!! Seriously... be the nice guy and just be upfront.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I agree that if he wasnt interested then he would have just responded to your text , but also it sounds like a cop out. I understand that people can be busy at work , but to be that busy for two whole weeks and not have a minute to text someone and say hi is obsurd. I dont think he is to interested, or there is someone else in the picture. If you see this guy as a friend then accept the weekly conversation. But dont have high expectations for him. Dont cancel your plans to hang out with him. I dont care how much you have to do at work, no one is ever that busy where they cant take a couple of minutes out of their day to say hi. Bottom line, dont make this guy your first priority , because you arent his!
xpaperxcutx Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 Get out while you still can!!!! There is no reason on Earth, not even unpaid phone bills, that could've prevented him from contacting you. It's such a cowardly way of him to just say he's not interested. You shouldn't hold on to any hope of getting any further texts from him, and don't pine over the phone texting him back. If he has been unwilling to even give you a minute of his time, why should you take out a minute of your own on him?
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