Unluckyone Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 My boyfriend and I got engaged a year and a half ago. Over the course of 6-7 months, So much was changing and I freaked and panic about getting married. Then, We broke up. I just didn't think I was ready to settle down yet. We still talked, emailed and texted and he wanted me back. After being broken up for 3 months, we decided to get back together because we loved each other so much. It's now been 6 months of being back together. I've done alot of thinking and transitioning and I finally feel like I'm ready for marriage and I thought he was. Well, I proposed to him and he said no. He said he loves me, but he wasn't ready. Now I'm confused. Any suggestions?
sedona Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Did he say anything more than not being ready? Remember that he loves you. Don't forget that's what truly matters. Neither of you has anything to prove by getting married...
carhill Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Breaking up during an engagement is a sign that things are not yet ready for that legal commitment, IMO. Re-start the clock, mindful of how the both of you feel. It's not a race.
frd150 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I believe that when two people get back together they have to start at square 1. Enjoy each other for now and like carhill said there is no hurry. Frankly I probably would have reacted as he did since you previously left. Ill bet he would agree with us on this. Just be glad you found each other again. Good luck.
Woggle Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 He is probably afraid you will break it off again.
Whey2Big4u Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 my ex fiance did the same thing to me...she left after six years......were still not together and its been 5 months now. So be happy you two found eachother. I agree with frd...hes probably scared youll break it off with him again, i also think that maybe in those three months he realized he wasnt ready either. You took a risk when you left and broke his heart, now you have to deal with the consequences. Your probably as confused as he was when you left....its only fair IMO...............if you cant tell im still pissed over my situation lmao
prisonbreak Posted March 1, 2008 Posted March 1, 2008 My situation is kinda similar to yours. Engaged, broken off and now we are together again. I am curious about how you are feeling? Is it better this time around or worse? I'll be following your posts.
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