YorkeeLuvr Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Hi Everyone! Im new here and I have been dating a GREAT guy for a little over a year. Everything is great in our life. We have fun together and spend everyday together. We moved in together after about 4 months of dating, and I know thats really early, but it just felt right. He is graduating this May and is moving 4 hours away to go to medical school. He has asked me to move with him, but I still have 2 years left in my undergraduate degree. I know 4 hours isn't that far away, but it is when you have lived with someone for almost a year and spend every moment with them. I initially told him that I would move with him, but now Im not so sure. I have extreme safety issues because I was kidnapped about 4 years ago, and we would be moving to a HUGE city with A LOT of crime. Also, as a first year medical school student he will be extremely busy, and because I have no friends there, I will be stuck at home while he is at school. I don't like to be alone, but I know that I will be. We have discussed a LDR but I just don't know if that would work, especially when were used to waking up every morning together and spending everyday together. All this has put a HUGE strain on our relationship because I am so unsure with my decision. I need MAJOR advice so anything will help!! Thanks so much! Sorry this is so long!
SeraBella Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 STAY IN SCHOOL!!!!!! Would you transfer to a different school there? Or were you going to "take time off". Stay in school, whatever it takes. Finish your degree. There's nothing I can stress more than that.
Nightwolf_58 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 I second the stay in school advice. If for some reason your relationship should fail down the line, at least you will have your education and will have the ability to take care of yourself in life and not have to rely on someone else to take care of you.
Els Posted February 29, 2008 Posted February 29, 2008 4 hours REALLY isn't that long. It'll take a period of adjustment, but a distance that short is rarely a barrier to a serious relationship, IMO. Unlesss you have serious time/family/financial/transport problems to compound it.
Author YorkeeLuvr Posted February 29, 2008 Author Posted February 29, 2008 STAY IN SCHOOL!!!!!! Would you transfer to a different school there? Or were you going to "take time off". Stay in school, whatever it takes. Finish your degree. There's nothing I can stress more than that. I was thinking I would do online classes for my current University. Im an English-Creative Writing major so we really only write essays, so I could easily complete my degree online. 4 hours REALLY isn't that long. Unlesss you have serious time/family/financial/transport problems to compound it. Actually, about a month ago my step-father passed away so I've been having to go back to visit my mom about every weekend. So if he is in medical school, and I have to visit my mom on the weekends, we would never get the opportunity to spend time together! Thanks everyone who has replied!!
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