tonyeltiger Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? 2)is the average length of a relationship? 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? 6)will you wait? Questions I've been wondering for a while. A slew of others I wonder about, but that more-so pertains to my personal life lol. I look forward to hearing what you guys have to say!
dfreeman Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 These are the big two for me and how I want to heal from this ugly break up. I did a few weeks of waiting to reconcile, but all that did was stop me from healing. I am no longer waiting for her, hoping for reconciliation, worrying about who she is dating or expecting any contact with her. That crap just caused me a 6-week stomachache that I never want to experience again. Sure, it would be nice to know down the road that I was missed, but it ain't doing me any good wanting to hear it now! As far as I'm concerned, she can just mail me a check for the house and go f#(k about her life!
g1976b Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? She really hasn't. Everything has been out of necessity regarding moving her stuff out. 2)is the average length of a relationship? Mine was about a year and a half. 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? Hasn't happened. 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? Ongoing. Lucky me. :-) 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? It's been 6 weeks now and I think I'm just starting to reach the tipping point. She's treating me like crap and I don't deserve it anymore. I've apologized for my part in things and she doesn't want to try again. I'm starting to realize if she truly loved me she would forgive me and want to work things out. I'm close to being able to say I'm moving on. 6)will you wait? Not much longer. Will I listen if she comes back in "6 months to a year" like she keeps mentioning? Sure....I'll listen. The fact of the matter is though I'm not going to WAIT for her. She's not doing any waiting and I'm not going to put my life on hold for something that probably will not be there. Feels good to finally think about standing up for myself a little bit.
SarahT111 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? It has been 2.5 monts of nc on my behalf and he hasn't bothered to contact me besides one bulk txt at new years. 2)is the average length of a relationship? 2 years for me, he was only commited for 1 year tho (long story) 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? Haven't gotten back together 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? 2.5 months before she dumped him ahahahahahaha 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? Sadly but yes I have! I wish more than anything I wasn't tho! 6)will you wait? I hope to god I wont!!! I want to move on more than anything but I love this guy!
prisonbreak Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1- 3 miserable weeks! 2- 2 yrs. 3- 2 1/2 months 4- no rebound 5- the whole time 6- It was when I gave up waiting that I got the call
Crestfallen_KH Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? It's been just over 3 months and I haven't heard from him. 2)is the average length of a relationship? 5.5 year marriage, 8 years together 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? Still broken up 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? Still dating her as far as I know. He actually moved in with her back in September just shortly after we split. 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? I have never broken up with the love of my life...I evidently haven't met him yet. So, 33 years. 6)will you wait? For ex-husband? Stopped waiting a few months ago. For the real love of my life? As long as it takes.
SarahT111 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 (edited) Crestfallen, I loved your answers, in particular you haven't yet mean the love of your life and your still waiting! I liked that! Made me think I haven't met mine either and the last ex defiently wasn't him!! Now i want to change my answers!! After what you have been through thats such a brave and positive outlook! You need to teach me how you get your strength!! good on you! i admire you! I know how much it hurts when your partner leaves and refuses to talk to you again! Then to top it off you find he has another woman! Was he really cruel to you also after/during the breakup? Keep your head up You sound like your doing a wonderful job so far! Edited February 28, 2008 by SarahT111
sedona Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? He hasn't called yet. This is what I wnat to know! 2)is the average length of a relationship no average length really. Longest was 15 years with now ex-husband. Shortest relationship that meant something to me was 3 months. The one that's currently making me miserable has lasted 7.5 months now. 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? We're on a NC break. I have only gotten back together with an ex-boyfirend once, but that didn't last long. 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? No rebound involved 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? It's been 10 days of NC 6)will you wait? I don't know. I ask myself that everyday!
atc2410 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? 2 months. Got a text today asking how I was and conveying significant news in a way that appeared inadvertant. Very out of the blue. Why why why? 2)is the average length of a relationship? 2 years 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? Still broken (4 months) 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? Attempted stuff I'm sure. None of my business. 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? Waited 2 months. Subsequent 2 months of NC and attempted healing. 6)will you wait? Can't isolate what I feel. Still too loaded with emotion. Heart wants what I had but head identifies history can't be repeated. Am not waiting.
eagle5 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1/ about 2 weeks!!! Then a courtesy 'how are you, I do care!!!!' bol**x call. 2/ 10 months 3/ didn't happen 4/ Apparently met him just b4 she broke it off!!!!!!!!! Don't know if they're still 2gether or not. 5/ YES but trying to convinve myself there's another one out there......somewhere. 6/ I'm at the turning point, I would have her back at the drop of a hat but would be scared of being hurt again.
dfreeman Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 6/ I'm at the turning point, I would have her back at the drop of a hat but would be scared of being hurt again Oh brother - I alluded to this in my response and it is probably a monster of a thread all by itself! After all the pain, confusion, and hard work trying to heal, I can't even imagine facing my friends to tell them that I was getting back with the ex, much less risk putting myself through all of this again. My ex would have to show some SERIOUS signs of a major turnaround before I would start up with her again.
spookie Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 1) did you go NC before the person who dumped you couldn't resist giving you a call? Well it's kinda complicated. We were "friends" but it was hard on me so I told him I was going to go NC. He wanted to talk to me but I refused. Then a month later I called him, told him I was ready to be friends... but he was unresponsive. 7ish months later, he initiated a conversation over AIM. Nothing since (it's been a week). 2)is the average length of a relationship? He's the only person I've fallen in love with that I had a relationship with. It lasted 3 years, on and off. 3)did you stay broken up before getting back together? Haven't. 4) did s/he date their rebound guy/girl? He hasn't dated anyone. 5)have you been waiting for the love of your life to want you back? Nearly a year. I've dated other people though. And learned a lot. 6)will you wait? That's a dumb question. I'm not going to settle for someone I don't love. So, if someone else I do comes along, great. If not I guess I'm going to keep on losing the ex. EDIT: I wanted to add that at this point I don't a relationship with him or anyone. All I am looking for is a friendship, something he's still unwilling to provide.
eagle5 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 Oh brother - I alluded to this in my response and it is probably a monster of a thread all by itself! After all the pain, confusion, and hard work trying to heal, I can't even imagine facing my friends to tell them that I was getting back with the ex, much less risk putting myself through all of this again. My ex would have to show some SERIOUS signs of a major turnaround before I would start up with her again. Dfree it's def the biggest question on my mind, and truely I don't know the answer to it. I agree she would have to change or at least show some signs of it, I would NEVER want to go through this last couple of months again. I think I would want to give it a go (1000,000%) but well........dam I don't know!!!! I might start a new thread on it...as you said.......
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