j0242b Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 So I’m dating this guy for 7 months and he’s overseas. He’ll be home in 4 months. I do love him with all my heart and I’m willing to do anything to make our relationship work but it’s SO hard. About a month ago I did cheat on him but I didn’t go as far as sleeping with anyone. I kissed his friend and another of his friends put his hands on me. When I drink you never know what is going to happen. Apparently I get really flirty. So this one night I blacked out and things happened. A girl I had gotten into a fight with told him everything and showed him proof. Now we don’t know what we are. Single? In a relationship? We don’t know. I’m willing to do anything to make things right but he’s making it really difficult. He told me I can’t drink, or go out like I use to. I cant talk to people because I’m too friendly and its like I’m flirting. Basically I have to be an angel, stay sober, and be perfect. He also said he isn’t going to give me any attention. I have to call him for him to call me, I have to write him for him to write me. He wont give me proper goodbyes. He’s being a major jerk and I don’t blame him but he says I deserve it. It’s wrong to stay with someone like that. I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m in this on my own. Should I just move on or do what he says? I can see myself with him later in life but I don’t think I deserve 4 months of this cruelty. any and all advice??
traveller991 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 I just wonder how old you are and how many other relationships you have had. It sounds to me that by your behaviour you're not ready for a committed relationship and you have weak boundaries or you wouldn't have kissed one guy and let another put his hands on you. I don't blame your bf for saying this behaviour has to stop. He is away, hearing things about you and other men, what is he supposed to think? Is he going to have to worry every time he's away about what you're up to? Why not try toning down the booze for YOUR sake not his as it sounds like you lose your inhibitions far too easily when alcohol is involved.
Author j0242b Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 im 21 hes 21 im not going to drink anymore..both for myself and him..time will tell ive had 1 other long term relationship [2.5 years] and and 1 other long distance somewhat long term relationship
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