kns81 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 [sIZE=2]Its been two months since my ex broke things off with me "I wasn’t the one and he wasn’t sure if there was a one out there for him" (after two years) I was devastated. I couldn’t believe it. He did the same thing the year before and then begged for me back a couple of weeks later (I obviously gave him another chance) when I hung up with him that was it. I did not plan on trying to do anything. I had no contact with him whatsoever. He sent me a text last week asking me how I was and I simply ignored it. I then get a MySpace message from my cousin: I am so impressed with how well you are taking things.. You are amazing. I almost threw up in my mouth. I knew it had to do with his page which I was never on. I went and checked. His status read "In a relationship" His number one friend was "her" He declared himself "happier than ever and loved" I couldn’t believe it. There were all of the comments I left him in the past and he has a new girlfriend on the page telling him how much she loves him. He only has 3 friends on his page - the new girl, my cousin, and my best friend. He knew it would get back to me, and it did. It hurts like hell. The new girl is 32yo and he is 24yo. She is very "fake" looking but beautiful (fake boobs, fake nose, fake tan, fake hair, collagen). Anyways.. My cousin wrote a bulletin for him to see that was not so nice. I couldn’t get a hold of her to delete it so I sent him the following message: [/sIZE][FONT=Verdana][sIZE=2]"I tried calling you to speak to you rather than emailing you but this will have to do. I apologize for the bulletin Jessica posted and have not been able to get a hold of her to delete that. I in now way instigated it, she is actually the one who told me you were seeing someone new. I couldn't be happier that you found someone and I must admit I am not a bit surprised because you are one charming character with a lot of amazing attributes. I do not want things left on a bad note seeing we are bound to run into each other someday or another or you are bound to run into one of my friends. I am too old for the drama I was going to leave things - as they were but that's not me. Im not going to pretend I am someone I am not to try and inflict pain onto another person. Good luck in all of your future endeavors & it would be [/sIZE][/FONT][sIZE=2]He responds back "To be honest she is an amazing girl and just so you know I didn’t cheat on you" I respond back "To be honest I had something on my concious I cheated on you in Acapulco. (madeout with a guy didn’t sleep with) - this was also during the first four months of our relationship He responds back "I figured" I respond back "Well.. Lots of amazing people can change like a light switch." That was the end of it… now this 32yo is leaving nasty ass things on her myspace directed towards me (I have done nothing). I just don’t know what to do.. I feel so unwanted, desperate, used, I just hate myself. I was doing so well and BAM. [/sIZE]
CaliGuy Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Stop looking at myspace. Change your profile to viewable by friends only. If you know myspace is bad for you, stop checking his site. It's like a drug addict with drugs available all the time. You know they are bad for you, stop taking them. You'll heal much faster if you accept things for the way they are and cut off contact. NC doesn't just mean you not contacting them. It also means you not seeking out information on them, be it through friends or family, the web, stalking them, etc. You're doing this to yourself. He isn't doing it to you.
Oggie_23 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 You should not hate yourself! She must be jealous of you since she is writing about you all over her myspace. Therefore, you must have been a rockin' girlfriend. Just ignore her. That will piss her off more than anything. And don't have any contact with your ex if possible. It will let up as soon as it is not fun for her anymore.
Author kns81 Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks for putting things in perspective. Im done my profile is private and my two friends deleted him as a friend. Im done. There will be no checking of his profile. I never checked it before until I found out he was seeting someone. Its hard. You should not hate yourself! She must be jealous of you since she is writing about you all over her myspace. Therefore, you must have been a rockin' girlfriend. Just ignore her. That will piss her off more than anything. And don't have any contact with your ex if possible. It will let up as soon as it is not fun for her anymore.
Star Gazer Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 I respond back "Well.. Lots of amazing people can change like a light switch." Ha! Love that. MySpace IS the devil. Devil. But I gotta assume it's the devil for them too... so I always paint a rosy picture, if ya know what I'm sayin'.
Oggie_23 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 It is hard. But you just need to move on and make sure you get a better guy the next time around. One who knows what he has and knows how to treat you.
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