dreamergrl Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Last Friday I went out with a guy who I've been interested in for a while, but haven't really done much about it, as I had gotten out of a relationship a while back. Anyways, we went out to dinner, and got some drinks afterwards. He was shy at first (and he mentioned before we went out that he's shy around newer people in his life), but as the night went on he opened up quite a bit. We hit it off, and spent most of the rest of the weekend together. He didn't try to sleep with me, and he told me that he's only been with 2 women in his life, and lacked that kind of experience. Which is fine, with me, because I don't need a man who just wants to have sex. However, there was still that kissing and such chemistry. Is it possible that a guy who isn't out for sex, is just out for "other" fun? We have plans for the weekend, and a basketball game next Wed (we got free tickets at the place we had dinner at last time). He did tell me he just got out of a relationship not to long ago, but he talks in terms of things we can do together - like when we go out again. I don't want to rush into anything, but I also don't want to just be the girl for a good time.
ilovemurf Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 what are you worried about? i like guys not rush into sex.
Author dreamergrl Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 Like I said, that's fine with me, I don't need a guy who just wants sex, my question is can guys be out for just "fun" without the sex.
Lizzie60 Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 I don't think you need to worry.. he seems to want to take things slowly too.. so just enjoy .. and stop analysing everything he does or say...
Phateless Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 I think he's just trying to protect his feelings because he got burned recently. It doesn't sound like he only wants sex from you. I think you should relax and stop over analyzing because you're gonna drive yourself insane and ruin it yourself. Sometimes we can be out for just "fun" without sex, it happens. Why don't you just talk to him? Plain and simple just ask "so what do you want? i don't want to rush you."
Author dreamergrl Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 LOL I'm not driving myself crazy, just being curious - it's been a while since I've "dated" - and I see all the different posts on here, and just looking for an outsiders thoughts. Thanks for the replies
Phateless Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 LOL I'm not driving myself crazy, just being curious - it's been a while since I've "dated" - and I see all the different posts on here, and just looking for an outsiders thoughts. Thanks for the replies You're in good shape. Relax and have a good time. Don't rush him.
carhill Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Try this: The next time you say goodnight, give him a lingering hug, and when you release him, look into his eyes and say "I had a really good time tonight and it's natural for me to show affection for someone when I like them". His response will be telling, as will the emotional energy you'll feel during the embrace. Trust your instincts. I dated women for many years who thought my "slow approach" meant that I was interested in "other fun". Their loss
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