wesrjohn Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 When you meet someone online that you really like, what is the best way to show them that you like them before a real meeting without coming off as desperate or needy? I mean if you really feel a lot of chemistry and dont want to have them thinking that youre giving them the common snowjob just to get laid.
StrawberryLime Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Well, if you've already set up a date, then just say simply that you're excited and looking forward to it. Anything else might just seem creepy. Or you can just mention that you feel you have a lot in common and think you'll "click" really well. Keep it simple. You don't want to tell a girl you like her before you've even met her face to face, the same as you don't want to ask her to marry you in the first month you've been dating, right? Pace yourself and you'll be fine. At the end of the date, if you've really done well and things are going swimmingly, then by all means, tell her you had a good time and you think she's great.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 At this moment before you even met the person, I would say that you keep that opinion to yourself. Like the post before me, you should just say that you're looking forward to the date, but anything more than that, would come as a bit too strong and might scare her off. See how the date goes, if you feel that there's a chemistry between the two of you, don't be scared to ask her out for a second date.
Jilly Bean Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 You don't. And why, you ask? Because you CANNOT have any real chemistry or connection with someone you've never met. Right now, you are enjoying an online fantasy. ALSO, if you set up an expectation like that, and then you feel NO chemistry in person, aren't you going to feel like quite the asshat trying to worm out of your previous effusive statements?
Star Gazer Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 ALSO, if you set up an expectation like that, and then you feel NO chemistry in person, aren't you going to feel like quite the asshat trying to worm out of your previous effusive statements? Hot damn, I love you. Seriously, OP. Keep the thoughts to yourself for now...
Author wesrjohn Posted February 28, 2008 Author Posted February 28, 2008 Thanks everybody! I agree, Online is online and real is real. I actually have met a few in person that were way different in real than they projected themselves online. And almost always different in a bad way.
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