xpaperxcutx Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 So I finally confronted the guy I like why he's been avoiding me. I don't want to say that I was desperate, but more of the fact that I felt that I at least deserved a reason why a person who seemed interested suddenly disappeared on me with no fault on my part. His response was that he had been busy with school and tests and he had been working overtime the last few days. I felt skeptical, because did such an excuse warrant why he didnt even had a few minutes to reply to my texts? What do you all think? He told me all this thru Aim and I felt stunted as I didnt know what to say in reply to that.
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 How has he acted since that convo? I think the true test will be how he acts from here on out. If he still plays hot and cold, then he isn't being sincere.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 26, 2008 Author Posted February 26, 2008 How has he acted since that convo? I think the true test will be how he acts from here on out. If he still plays hot and cold, then he isn't being sincere. I really didnt know how to respond, i told him to get back to studying then and I signed off. I didn't know whether to be angry or sad or what...
D-Lish Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Well, I guess it is a matter of waiting to see how he reacts after he gets through the studying/exams, etc. I'd wait it out and let him come to you since he's been the one acting slightly distant. It could just be nothing! I know being a student consumed me during certain periods.... and it was stressful. SO he might be telling you the truth about that.
Jilly Bean Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 Quite bluntly (because if you would confront a guy for blowing you off, then I assume you can handle blunt - lol), he blew you off and is avoiding you because he's not interested. It would be extremely rare for ANYONE to be honest and tell you that - instead, they avoid and hope you get the hint. You didn't, so you forced his hand, and he had to come up with an excuse. Even the times I am super super busy and my friends who I love text me, I may not respond promptly, but I ALWAYS respond. I think you knew all this, though. You're a smart cookie...
StrawberryLime Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 It would be extremely rare for ANYONE to be honest and tell you that - instead, they avoid and hope you get the hint. You didn't, so you forced his hand, and he had to come up with an excuse. I agree with this. If a bloke's into you enough then he will pick up the phone and ring you. That's a lesson I've had to start learning recently, too. It will suck for awhile if he really does fade away and not contact you again, but it's better to know and move on, right? Everyone deserves someone worthy of their time and effort, and this one doesn't appear to be that person. So the next move is to find someone who is!
SeraBella Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 I have to say I agree with Jilly Bean and StrawberryLime. And from your posts to other threads, I also think you knew the answer, although it's harder to see (or we don't want to see it) when it happens to ourselves. You also know you deserve better.
Trialbyfire Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 He's full of crap. A guy who's interested, will always make the time for a quick, touch-base discussion. It's a matter of prioritization. He's avoiding the drama of being honest with you. Coward.
Pyro Posted February 26, 2008 Posted February 26, 2008 He's full of crap. A guy who's interested, will always make the time for a quick, touch-base discussion. It's a matter of prioritization. He's avoiding the drama of being honest with you. Coward. I second this advice.
ilovemurf Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 don't waste time on someone who's not interested in you
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 27, 2008 Author Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks everyone, especially Jilly Bean. I guess I went through that phase of deep emotional attachment to something unrealistic, and I was refusing to open my eyes to the truth. Thanks I think I can learn to move on now.
Angels&Airwaves Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks everyone, especially Jilly Bean. I guess I went through that phase of deep emotional attachment to something unrealistic, and I was refusing to open my eyes to the truth. Thanks I think I can learn to move on now. You'll meet someone great, when the time is right.
Jilly Bean Posted February 27, 2008 Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks everyone, especially Jilly Bean. I guess I went through that phase of deep emotional attachment to something unrealistic, and I was refusing to open my eyes to the truth. Thanks I think I can learn to move on now. You're very welcome, hon. And yes, if you learned something from this, then it was not time poorly spent, right? I am sure next time someone is non-responsive, you will let it go. FWIW, when I was younger, I was much like you. Such a straight shooter, and I expected the same in return! So, I was HIGHLY confrontational. Now? I realize even when I confront, I probably won't get the truth anyhow... As I like to say, if it's confusing to you, then it's actually crystal clear. Know what I mean? You'll be fine - I am sure someone super is right around the corner...
bones1 Posted February 28, 2008 Posted February 28, 2008 A man who is interested will drop everything to make contact with you. A man who is not sure will back off, and the work, school, etc are always the easiest excuse..
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 28, 2008 Author Posted February 28, 2008 You're very welcome, hon. And yes, if you learned something from this, then it was not time poorly spent, right? I am sure next time someone is non-responsive, you will let it go. FWIW, when I was younger, I was much like you. Such a straight shooter, and I expected the same in return! So, I was HIGHLY confrontational. Now? I realize even when I confront, I probably won't get the truth anyhow... As I like to say, if it's confusing to you, then it's actually crystal clear. Know what I mean? You'll be fine - I am sure someone super is right around the corner... Absolutely. I'm actually thinking I really don't need to rush into anything. If it happens, it happens. Right now I think I'm coming to the understanding that I'm still young and I have all the time in the world to just have fun. Thanks again everybody.
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